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15 Experiences You Need to Have With Someone Before You Marry Them

15 Experiences You Need to Have With Someone Before You Marry Them

Honeymoon phase is over and now everything feels boring? Do these 4 things

Honeymoon phase is over and now everything feels boring? Do these 4 things

You did the best you could with the information and awareness that you had

You did the best you could with the information and awareness that you had

8 slightly outside-the-box questions before jumping in bed with someone for the first time

8 slightly outside-the-box questions before jumping in bed with someone for the first time

You don't have to tolerate someone's hurtful behavior just because they were mistreated in the past

You don't have to tolerate someone's hurtful behavior just because they were mistreated in the past

4 very subtle but important green flags in a relationship

4 very subtle but important green flags in a relationship

8 slightly outside-the-box questions to ask before jumping in bed with someone for the first time

8 slightly outside-the-box questions to ask before jumping in bed with someone for the first time

10 questions to ask between dates five and eight

10 questions to ask between dates five and eight

2 questions I like to ask at the end of a good first date

2 questions I like to ask at the end of a good first date

Are you the scapegoat of your family?

Are you the scapegoat of your family?

12 really personal questions to ask before you go on a first date if you don't wanna waste your time

12 really personal questions to ask before you go on a first date if you don't wanna waste your time

Is it hard to break up because you don't have a good enough reason to end things? Or...

Is it hard to break up because you don't have a good enough reason to end things? Or...

Do these 5 things if you want a good relationship with yourself

Do these 5 things if you want a good relationship with yourself

With a higher libido partner who wants to jump in bed more than you? Remember these 4 things

With a higher libido partner who wants to jump in bed more than you? Remember these 4 things

A common sign of childhood trauma? Trying to get people who're emotionally unstable to treat us well

A common sign of childhood trauma? Trying to get people who're emotionally unstable to treat us well

It is not necessary to completely forget about an ex in order to "move on"

It is not necessary to completely forget about an ex in order to "move on"

Should you break up or stay together? 5 questions to consider

Should you break up or stay together? 5 questions to consider

6 signs the crush you're experiencing outside of your relationship is becoming problematic

6 signs the crush you're experiencing outside of your relationship is becoming problematic

Are you lonely and sad on Valentine's Day? Or...

Are you lonely and sad on Valentine's Day? Or...

8 questions to ask yourself before saying "I love you" for the first time

8 questions to ask yourself before saying "I love you" for the first time

Sunk cost keeps so many people in relationships they don't want to be in

Sunk cost keeps so many people in relationships they don't want to be in

You do not have to forgive someone who has done something unforgivable

You do not have to forgive someone who has done something unforgivable

5 subtle things that are dealbreakers for me, a therapist, at the start of a relationship

5 subtle things that are dealbreakers for me, a therapist, at the start of a relationship

3 questions I hate on first dates

3 questions I hate on first dates

Do you wanna break up, but you're too scared to do it? 4 tips for ending it

Do you wanna break up, but you're too scared to do it? 4 tips for ending it

Sensitive people: You're not a burden!

Sensitive people: You're not a burden!

Repeat after me: In a relationship, I will only accept...

Repeat after me: In a relationship, I will only accept...

10 reasons you can't stand your sibling

10 reasons you can't stand your sibling

8 ways to stop crushing on someone who doesn't like you

8 ways to stop crushing on someone who doesn't like you

5 things you might be scared to share with your therapist that are perfectly fine to bring up

5 things you might be scared to share with your therapist that are perfectly fine to bring up

Are you feeling kinda "meh" about going on dates right now? Or...

Are you feeling kinda "meh" about going on dates right now? Or...

5 questions to ask yourself in order to have good fights instead of bad fights with your partner

5 questions to ask yourself in order to have good fights instead of bad fights with your partner

4 things you shouldn't feel ashamed of

4 things you shouldn't feel ashamed of

5 questions to ask your partner about their upcoming birthday

5 questions to ask your partner about their upcoming birthday

Are you the constant caretaker in relationships? I have 9 questions for you!

Are you the constant caretaker in relationships? I have 9 questions for you!

Does your partner know how you want to be broken up with?

Does your partner know how you want to be broken up with?

12 really good second date questions

12 really good second date questions

5 things to remember if you're struggling with a breakup

5 things to remember if you're struggling with a breakup

4 things you can do if your partner is super clingy

4 things you can do if your partner is super clingy

5 questions to ask if you're thinking about getting back with your ex

5 questions to ask if you're thinking about getting back with your ex

7 things you should know after dating for a year

7 things you should know after dating for a year

Are you dating someone with an avoidant attachment style?

Are you dating someone with an avoidant attachment style?

15 questions to ask yourself while you're in the honeymoon stage

15 questions to ask yourself while you're in the honeymoon stage

12 questions to ask yourself before you break up

12 questions to ask yourself before you break up

4 things to consider if you're going from friends to more than friends

4 things to consider if you're going from friends to more than friends

How can you tell who someone really is during the honeymoon stage?

How can you tell who someone really is during the honeymoon stage?

10 questions that will deepen your connection with your partner

10 questions that will deepen your connection with your partner

Are you really chill and easygoing in relationships? Or...

Are you really chill and easygoing in relationships? Or...

How can you tell who someone really is during the honeymoon stage?

How can you tell who someone really is during the honeymoon stage?

Are you really good at finding the humor in tough situations? Or...

Are you really good at finding the humor in tough situations? Or...

Don't underestimate the emotional impact of rejections and micro breakups while dating

Don't underestimate the emotional impact of rejections and micro breakups while dating

Is it all your fault because you're an anxious, insecure mess in relationships? Or...

Is it all your fault because you're an anxious, insecure mess in relationships? Or...

Repeat after me: In a relationship, I will never again settle for...

Repeat after me: In a relationship, I will never again settle for...

This is why you feel secure in one relationship but totally insecure in another

This is why you feel secure in one relationship but totally insecure in another

How about you stop being so hard on yourself?

How about you stop being so hard on yourself?

10 things you should NOT say to your partner when you've upset them

10 things you should NOT say to your partner when you've upset them

15 questions to ask your babe after getting laid

15 questions to ask your babe after getting laid

"If they wanted to, they would" has been changed to "If they had the bandwidth for it, they would"

"If they wanted to, they would" has been changed to "If they had the bandwidth for it, they would"

3 really difficult parts of being a therapist that you have no idea about

3 really difficult parts of being a therapist that you have no idea about

Are you really good at being unselfish and putting your needs to the side in a relationship? Or...

Are you really good at being unselfish and putting your needs to the side in a relationship? Or...

10 experiences you need to have with someone before you marry them

10 experiences you need to have with someone before you marry them

Top 5 things I love about starting to fall for someone early on

Top 5 things I love about starting to fall for someone early on

5 questions to ask yourself when you meet someone you really wanna fall in love with

5 questions to ask yourself when you meet someone you really wanna fall in love with

To feel better in the future, you may have to do something that'll make you feel worse in the now

To feel better in the future, you may have to do something that'll make you feel worse in the now

It's easier for your parent to believe that you're the problem

It's easier for your parent to believe that you're the problem

Self-care can be...

Self-care can be...

What if they're great... but you have no chemistry?

What if they're great... but you have no chemistry?

5 hard truths I absolutely hate about relationships

5 hard truths I absolutely hate about relationships

You wanna know what your biggest red flag is?

You wanna know what your biggest red flag is?

Here are the irrefutable vibes for the leading dating apps

Here are the irrefutable vibes for the leading dating apps

5 things you should not do when you first start to fall for someone

5 things you should not do when you first start to fall for someone

Before starting a casual relationship with a new babe, consider asking these 5 questions

Before starting a casual relationship with a new babe, consider asking these 5 questions

3 things you can start doing right now until forever that will make your relationship better

3 things you can start doing right now until forever that will make your relationship better

5 perfectly fine reasons to break up with your partner

5 perfectly fine reasons to break up with your partner

5 subtle things to pay close attention to when you first start dating someone

5 subtle things to pay close attention to when you first start dating someone

3 dating mindshifts that will improve your chances of finding a good match

3 dating mindshifts that will improve your chances of finding a good match

4 things that feel like chemistry in a relationship — but aren't chemistry

4 things that feel like chemistry in a relationship — but aren't chemistry

8 questions I ask my couples to get them to feel more loving towards each other

8 questions I ask my couples to get them to feel more loving towards each other

7 essential questions to navigate your partner's boundaries in your relationship (part 2)

7 essential questions to navigate your partner's boundaries in your relationship (part 2)

5 subtle signs that your relationship might not be doing great

5 subtle signs that your relationship might not be doing great

Is it my commitment issues that won't allow me to be in a relationship with you? OR...

Is it my commitment issues that won't allow me to be in a relationship with you? OR...

Why does it feel like you've known them forever?

Why does it feel like you've known them forever?

5 red flags you're ignoring in the honeymoon stage

5 red flags you're ignoring in the honeymoon stage

3 subconscious reasons that can hold you back from breaking up

3 subconscious reasons that can hold you back from breaking up

You're feeling everything all the time but also have no capacity left to feel anything anymore

You're feeling everything all the time but also have no capacity left to feel anything anymore

Is it codependency that overwhelms my partner? Or...

Is it codependency that overwhelms my partner? Or...

It's not about finding a partner that never triggers you or activates your intimacy issues

It's not about finding a partner that never triggers you or activates your intimacy issues

You won't find someone without insecurities — just find someone who manages their insecurities well

You won't find someone without insecurities — just find someone who manages their insecurities well

You can't *fully* mourn someone you haven't lost

You can't fully mourn someone you haven't lost

You do NOT need consent to break up with someone

You do NOT need consent to break up with someone

7 completely normal things that don't have to be red flags in relationships

7 completely normal things that don't have to be red flags in relationships

Not quite sure if you're pleasing your partner in bed? Try this!

Not quite sure if you're pleasing your partner in bed? Try this!

This is why it may feel impossible to end a relationship with someone that treats you like crap

This is why it may feel impossible to end a relationship with someone that treats you like crap

5 reasons you should break up with your partner

5 reasons you should break up with your partner

Stop being who you THINK you should be in order to be lovable or likable

Stop being who you THINK you should be in order to be lovable or likable

Is it my trauma that won't allow me to be in a relationship with you? OR...

Is it my trauma that won't allow me to be in a relationship with you? OR...

7 signs that your partner might be feeling done with the relationship

7 signs that your partner might be feeling done with the relationship

When you ask for reassurance, you need to accept it

When you ask for reassurance, you need to accept it

6 passive aggressive statements that will set a boundary with your family

6 passive aggressive statements that will set a boundary with your family

10 questions to ask yourself after a first date

10 questions to ask yourself after a first date

As a relationship therapist, here are 3 things I would NEVER assume at the start of a relationship

As a relationship therapist, here are 3 things I would NEVER assume at the start of a relationship

Do you feel guilty about buying stuff on Amazon?

Do you feel guilty about buying stuff on Amazon?

When is it okay to ghost someone?

When is it okay to ghost someone?

You know what I can't stand about emotionally stunted men?

You know what I can't stand about emotionally stunted men?

4 things you're probably not doing that will create a long, healthy relationship

4 things you're probably not doing that will create a long, healthy relationship

If you're a people-pleaser and want to end a relationship, keep these 5 things in mind

If you're a people-pleaser and want to end a relationship, keep these 5 things in mind

4 reasons your ex can make it work with someone else and not you

4 reasons your ex can make it work with someone else and not you

5 things I NEED you to know

5 things I NEED you to know

You don't owe someone forgiveness just because they took accountability

You don't owe someone forgiveness just because they took accountability

Do you get concerned with how much energy your partner is using to get you off?

Do you get concerned with how much energy your partner is using to get you off?

5 wonderful things about being single

5 wonderful things about being single

How to figure out if you're being "too needy" or not getting your needs met

How to figure out if you're being "too needy" or not getting your needs met

Sometimes people aren't meant to be in your life anymore — and sometimes it's nobody's fault

Sometimes people aren't meant to be in your life anymore — and sometimes it's nobody's fault

10 questions you should ask your therapist

10 questions you should ask your therapist

When you're dating, remember these 4 things!

When you're dating, remember these 4 things!

In defense of people with an avoidant attachment style

In defense of people with an avoidant attachment style

4 lies we need to stop telling ourselves at the start of a relationship

4 lies we need to stop telling ourselves at the start of a relationship

The existence of these things does NOT mean you're in a doomed relationship or a horrible person

The existence of these things does NOT mean you're in a doomed relationship or a horrible person

It's okay if you're still not over it!

It's okay if you're still not over it!

Partner not meeting a need? 12 questions to ask yourself

Partner not meeting a need? 12 questions to ask yourself

You don't have to be a certain amount of "healthiness" before you start dating. Do this instead!

You don't have to be a certain amount of "healthiness" before you start dating. Do this instead!

8 spicy questions to ask your babe if you wanna heat things up!

8 spicy questions to ask your babe if you wanna heat things up!

Just because you miss someone, it doesn't mean you want them back.

Just because you miss someone, it doesn't mean you want them back.

10 questions to ask yourself before jumping in bed with someone for the first time

10 questions to ask yourself before jumping in bed with someone for the first time

4 reasons why the best time to jump in bed with your sweetie is right before dinner

4 reasons why the best time to jump in bed with your sweetie is right before dinner

4 signs your sweetie might be losing interest in the relationship.

4 signs your sweetie might be losing interest in the relationship.

This is why you're more upset about your situationship ending.

This is why you're more upset about your situationship ending.

12 important questions to ask your partner if you want to have kids together

12 important questions to ask your partner if you want to have kids together

5 more questions to ask at the start of a relationship to make it a healing relationship

5 more questions to ask at the start of a relationship to make it a healing relationship

7 common pitfalls I see in long-term relationships

7 common pitfalls I see in long-term relationships

6 reasons why it's better to meet people in real life than through dating apps

6 reasons why it's better to meet people in real life than through dating apps

Should you give up on your relationship or wait it out? 6 questions to help you get clarity

Should you give up on your relationship or wait it out? 6 questions to help you get clarity

4 dangerous things you need to stop romanticizing about relationships

4 dangerous things you need to stop romanticizing about relationships

4 ways to be a happy and chill single person

4 ways to be a happy and chill single person

Why you have a really hard time spotting abusive behavior

Why you have a really hard time spotting abusive behavior

4 ways to feel less anxious when you first start dating

4 ways to feel less anxious when you first start dating

6 examples of boundaries that are perfectly fine to set at the start of a relationship

6 examples of boundaries that are perfectly fine to set at the start of a relationship

4 examples of non-apologies that sound like real apologies

4 examples of non-apologies that sound like real apologies

Sunk cost keeps so many people in relationships they don’t want to be in.

Sunk cost keeps so many people in relationships they don’t want to be in.

5 things you can do if you start crushing on someone outside your relationship. #therapy #crush

5 things you can do if you start crushing on someone outside your relationship. #therapy #crush

For my men out there, 3 important relationship tips. #therapy #mentalhealth #dating #men

For my men out there, 3 important relationship tips. #therapy #mentalhealth #dating #men

Stop lowering the bar for men! #therapy #mentalhealth #dating #men

Stop lowering the bar for men! #therapy #mentalhealth #dating #men

4 reasons you can go from love and obsession to hating them. #therapy #mentalhealth #dating

4 reasons you can go from love and obsession to hating them. #therapy #mentalhealth #dating

You’re not the “problem” when you set a healthy boundary in your family. #therapy #mentalhealth

You’re not the “problem” when you set a healthy boundary in your family. #therapy #mentalhealth

First, you need to accept who your parents are and what they can provide. #therapy #mentalhealth

First, you need to accept who your parents are and what they can provide. #therapy #mentalhealth

But what if it works out? #therapy #mentalhealth #selfworth #optimism #confidence

But what if it works out? #therapy #mentalhealth #selfworth #optimism #confidence

You are enough, you will always be enough and nobody can take that from you. #therapy #mentalhealth

You are enough, you will always be enough and nobody can take that from you. #therapy #mentalhealth

15 small but very significant things you should know about your partner 6 months in to relationship.

15 small but very significant things you should know about your partner 6 months in to relationship.

Insecurity is not a flaw! #mentalhealth #therapy #dating #relationships #anxiousattachment

Insecurity is not a flaw! #mentalhealth #therapy #dating #relationships #anxiousattachment

Are you positive that relationships won’t work out for you and you’ll never find love or…

Are you positive that relationships won’t work out for you and you’ll never find love or…

You’re worthy, you’re of value and you deserve to be seen. #mentalhealth #therapy

You’re worthy, you’re of value and you deserve to be seen. #mentalhealth #therapy

A checklist of questions to ask yourself before you break up! #dating #relationships #breakup

A checklist of questions to ask yourself before you break up! #dating #relationships #breakup

15 questions to ask yourself when you first start dating someone. #dating #relationships #therapy

15 questions to ask yourself when you first start dating someone. #dating #relationships #therapy

If you suffered abuse or trauma it’s 100% normal to have revenge fantasies. #mentalhealth #therapy

If you suffered abuse or trauma it’s 100% normal to have revenge fantasies. #mentalhealth #therapy

This is what you’ll get if you make a commitment to healing. #mentalhealth #therapy #health

This is what you’ll get if you make a commitment to healing. #mentalhealth #therapy #health

This is the point of finding a good healthy partner. #dating #relationships #therapy #mentalhealth

This is the point of finding a good healthy partner. #dating #relationships #therapy #mentalhealth

10 questions to find out if your new love interest has actually worked on themselves. #dating

10 questions to find out if your new love interest has actually worked on themselves. #dating

Is it all your fault because of your anxious attachment style or is your partner a turd?

Is it all your fault because of your anxious attachment style or is your partner a turd?

If you’re attracted to someone else while you’re in a committed monogamous relationship, that’s fine

If you’re attracted to someone else while you’re in a committed monogamous relationship, that’s fine

Do you know anyone who plays the hero/victim role? #narcissist #mentalhealth #therapy

Do you know anyone who plays the hero/victim role? #narcissist #mentalhealth #therapy

3 important things in a relationship. #relationships #dating #mentalhealth #therapy

3 important things in a relationship. #relationships #dating #mentalhealth #therapy

Are you lazy or burnt out? #mentalhealth #therapy #feelings

Are you lazy or burnt out? #mentalhealth #therapy #feelings

Ask yourself these 10 questions if you feel like you’re behind in life. #mentalhealth

Ask yourself these 10 questions if you feel like you’re behind in life. #mentalhealth

The term “narcissist” is thrown around way too often. #narcissist

The term “narcissist” is thrown around way too often. #narcissist

You know that feeling of rejection when you’re in the mood and you make a move but you’re denied?

You know that feeling of rejection when you’re in the mood and you make a move but you’re denied?

Analyzing all the friends characters. I’m so sorry I did this! #friends #mentalhealth #therapy

Analyzing all the friends characters. I’m so sorry I did this! #friends #mentalhealth #therapy

Date someone who understands your mental health. #mentalhealth #therapy #dating

Date someone who understands your mental health. #mentalhealth #therapy #dating

If you ask for reassurance when you’re feeling anxious you’re not being too needy! #therapy

If you ask for reassurance when you’re feeling anxious you’re not being too needy! #therapy

Telling someone to “just move on” is not a helpful things to say. #mentalhealth #dating #therapy

Telling someone to “just move on” is not a helpful things to say. #mentalhealth #dating #therapy

Complex trauma and needs. #mentalhealth #therapy #ptsd

Complex trauma and needs. #mentalhealth #therapy #ptsd

If my independence feels like abandonment to you I’m not going to feel guilty about it. #therapy

If my independence feels like abandonment to you I’m not going to feel guilty about it. #therapy

We teach people how to treat us by how much we are willing to tolerate. #relationships #mentalhealth

We teach people how to treat us by how much we are willing to tolerate. #relationships #mentalhealth

What’s the hardest part about being a therapist? I’ll tell you! #mentalhealth #therapy

What’s the hardest part about being a therapist? I’ll tell you! #mentalhealth #therapy

You don’t get a free pass to harm people just because you have mental health issues. #mentalhealth

You don’t get a free pass to harm people just because you have mental health issues. #mentalhealth

Who you are is not defined by someone else’s worst opinion of you. #mentalhealth #therapy #selfcare

Who you are is not defined by someone else’s worst opinion of you. #mentalhealth #therapy #selfcare

You can only forgive someone if you really want to. #mentalhealth #forgiveness

You can only forgive someone if you really want to. #mentalhealth #forgiveness

Do you have to forgive the person who hurt you in order to heal? #mentalhealth #trauma

Do you have to forgive the person who hurt you in order to heal? #mentalhealth #trauma

It’s not your fault that you have triggers! #mentalhealth #therapy

It’s not your fault that you have triggers! #mentalhealth #therapy

Your feelings are valid even if someone didn’t mean to hurt you. #mentalhealth #feelings

Your feelings are valid even if someone didn’t mean to hurt you. #mentalhealth #feelings

Telling someone “Don’t be so insecure” needs to be cancelled. #insecure #mentalhealth

Telling someone “Don’t be so insecure” needs to be cancelled. #insecure #mentalhealth

Remember this when setting a boundary! #boundaries #mentalhealth #therapy #relationships

Remember this when setting a boundary! #boundaries #mentalhealth #therapy #relationships

On a first date, ask yourself are you feeling comfortable or familiarity? #dating #firstdate

On a first date, ask yourself are you feeling comfortable or familiarity? #dating #firstdate

Your partner is not going to ask for their needs to be met in the exact way that you want them to.

Your partner is not going to ask for their needs to be met in the exact way that you want them to.

Self care can be… #mentalhealth #therapy #selfcare

Self care can be… #mentalhealth #therapy #selfcare

You want to start dating again but you’re not sure if you’re ready. #therapy #dating #relationships

You want to start dating again but you’re not sure if you’re ready. #therapy #dating #relationships

You don’t have to reach a specific amount of healthiness before you go on dates. #dating #therapy

You don’t have to reach a specific amount of healthiness before you go on dates. #dating #therapy

Being defensive can ruin relationships! This is how you fix it. #dating #relationships #mentalhealth

Being defensive can ruin relationships! This is how you fix it. #dating #relationships #mentalhealth

My toxic trait as a therapist. #therapy #mentalhealth #therapist

My toxic trait as a therapist. #therapy #mentalhealth #therapist

Are you annoying your therapist? #mentalhealth #therapy

Are you annoying your therapist? #mentalhealth #therapy

When do you break up with a partner if they’re not meeting a need? #dating #relationships #therapy

When do you break up with a partner if they’re not meeting a need? #dating #relationships #therapy

What do you wanna do about your needs? #therapy #needs #mentalhealth

What do you wanna do about your needs? #therapy #needs #mentalhealth

Intention vs. Impact. #mentalhealth #therapy #dating #datingadvice #relationships

Intention vs. Impact. #mentalhealth #therapy #dating #datingadvice #relationships

A super normal way to start my mornings every single day. #mentalhealth

A super normal way to start my mornings every single day. #mentalhealth

If I tell you that you hurt my feelings… #mentalhealth #therapy #feelings

If I tell you that you hurt my feelings… #mentalhealth #therapy #feelings

If you decide to make the very difficult decision to cut someone out of your life. #mentalhealth

If you decide to make the very difficult decision to cut someone out of your life. #mentalhealth

If someone is 100% blaming you because the relationship failed. #mentalhealth #therapy #dating

If someone is 100% blaming you because the relationship failed. #mentalhealth #therapy #dating

5 reasons you can’t get over your ex. Check out my longer video that includes all 10 reasons.

5 reasons you can’t get over your ex. Check out my longer video that includes all 10 reasons.

Not sure how to express your feelings? #mentalhealth #therapy #relationships #datingadvice

Not sure how to express your feelings? #mentalhealth #therapy #relationships #datingadvice

The point of therapy. #mentalhealth #therapy #funny #comedy

The point of therapy. #mentalhealth #therapy #funny #comedy

Your feelings are valid and may be taking up too much space right now. #mentalhealth #ukraine

Your feelings are valid and may be taking up too much space right now. #mentalhealth #ukraine