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Three ways to recognize people pleasing in yourself

Three ways to recognize people pleasing in yourself

You are not obligated to have relationships in general, but especially family that is detrimental to

You are not obligated to have relationships in general, but especially family that is detrimental to

Don’t get yourself caught up in your head, trying to make people happy when they are continuously

Don’t get yourself caught up in your head, trying to make people happy when they are continuously

People are gonna believe what they wanna believe regardless of how you feel about it

People are gonna believe what they wanna believe regardless of how you feel about it

Stop trying to prove anything to somebody who does not see their own value or belief in what they

Stop trying to prove anything to somebody who does not see their own value or belief in what they

You gotta be your own best friend

You gotta be your own best friend

You are not responsible for somebody else’s feelings

You are not responsible for somebody else’s feelings

There are three types of people, probably a few more that you wanna distance yourself from before it

There are three types of people, probably a few more that you wanna distance yourself from before it

Overexplaining is 100% rooted an insecurity

Overexplaining is 100% rooted an insecurity

Some manipulation tactics are covert and others are directly obvious

Some manipulation tactics are covert and others are directly obvious

Their opinions are done through the lens in which they have experienced life

Their opinions are done through the lens in which they have experienced life

People don’t respect your boundaries because you don’t respect them

People don’t respect your boundaries because you don’t respect them

Love and responsibility are two very different things

Love and responsibility are two very different things

Your boundaries aren’t working because quite frankly they’re not boundaries at all

Your boundaries aren’t working because quite frankly they’re not boundaries at all

Other people‘s opinions only matter if we give value to it

Other people‘s opinions only matter if we give value to it

Sometimes you question if it’s manipulation, and it usually is

Sometimes you question if it’s manipulation, and it usually is

Emotional manipulators are not willing to have a conversation with you that is productive

Emotional manipulators are not willing to have a conversation with you that is productive

When someone is constantly complaining, it interrupts the flow of your own energy

When someone is constantly complaining, it interrupts the flow of your own energy

You complain about being taken advantage of but you are giving them the power to do so

You complain about being taken advantage of but you are giving them the power to do so

No one really cares if you meet your goals, follow through with the things you said that you were

No one really cares if you meet your goals, follow through with the things you said that you were

Radical acceptance is one of the key mindsets to adopt for yourself

Radical acceptance is one of the key mindsets to adopt for yourself

You have to protect your own mental health when dealing with someone who is close to you who has

You have to protect your own mental health when dealing with someone who is close to you who has

Load your toolbox with simple responses for people who start to guilt trip you

Load your toolbox with simple responses for people who start to guilt trip you

3 powerful reminder for your life today

3 powerful reminder for your life today

Appreciating vs obligation

Appreciating vs obligation

Do NOT over explain your no

Do NOT over explain your no

Seeking validation is a prison you will never get out of

Seeking validation is a prison you will never get out of

You are under no obligation to have children if you choose not to

You are under no obligation to have children if you choose not to

Three responses for the aggressive guilt tripper

Three responses for the aggressive guilt tripper

No is a neutral word

No is a neutral word

3 ways to respond to narcissistic conversations

3 ways to respond to narcissistic conversations

3 ways to respond to gaslighting

3 ways to respond to gaslighting

Remember when you’re responding to guilt trips that it really is about preserving your own peace

Remember when you’re responding to guilt trips that it really is about preserving your own peace

Blocking people to protect your peace is one of the best things that you can do

Blocking people to protect your peace is one of the best things that you can do

We get really down on ourselves and we feel as though people are rejecting us and abandoning us

We get really down on ourselves and we feel as though people are rejecting us and abandoning us

You have so much more power to say no

You have so much more power to say no

Let’s unboxed your guilt

Let’s unboxed your guilt

You’re not gonna allow yourself to get activated by somebody today who is trying to activate

You’re not gonna allow yourself to get activated by somebody today who is trying to activate

Recognizing manipulation tactics will help you not become a victim to them

Recognizing manipulation tactics will help you not become a victim to them

People don’t always want the authentic you because it may not serve them or make them comfortable

People don’t always want the authentic you because it may not serve them or make them comfortable

Becoming emotionally regulated takes a bit of time when you haven mt been in the past

Becoming emotionally regulated takes a bit of time when you haven mt been in the past

Do not engage with people who will only focus on their own viewpoint

Do not engage with people who will only focus on their own viewpoint

3 Election Day Anxiety Tips

3 Election Day Anxiety Tips

People will play victim when they cross a boundary and you respond in a way they weren’t expecting

People will play victim when they cross a boundary and you respond in a way they weren’t expecting

I am deeply saddened by the ridiculous situation behind pnut squirrel and Fred the raccoon

I am deeply saddened by the ridiculous situation behind pnut squirrel and Fred the raccoon

Why are you stressed about the haters? The haters are a really good thing in your life

Why are you stressed about the haters? The haters are a really good thing in your life

Every day and sometimes every season is not gonna be perfect

Every day and sometimes every season is not gonna be perfect

Are you always over explaining yourself? You absolutely do not have to

Are you always over explaining yourself? You absolutely do not have to

How to handle fake apologies in under 30 seconds

How to handle fake apologies in under 30 seconds

Are you willing to go no contact with family and friends if it means that your mental health and

Are you willing to go no contact with family and friends if it means that your mental health and

Family first can create so much stress and anxiety within you that you allow yourself to be put

Family first can create so much stress and anxiety within you that you allow yourself to be put

A lot of the reasons you’re stuck is you’ve adopted these lies that were told to you growing up

A lot of the reasons you’re stuck is you’ve adopted these lies that were told to you growing up

What do you believe to be true if you feel they don’t love you? Where did that begin and why give

What do you believe to be true if you feel they don’t love you? Where did that begin and why give

Social interactions can be stressful for many people

Social interactions can be stressful for many people

Shut down passive aggressive apologies

Shut down passive aggressive apologies

Shut down passive aggressive comments with a quick response

Shut down passive aggressive comments with a quick response

When people sympathize with someone’s actions, they will always champion for them to get the justice

When people sympathize with someone’s actions, they will always champion for them to get the justice

Do not try to fit someone else’s agenda

Do not try to fit someone else’s agenda

Criticism in front of others is rarely productive

Criticism in front of others is rarely productive

On your healing journey there will be days/weeks/months or even years that you feel defeated but

On your healing journey there will be days/weeks/months or even years that you feel defeated but

Comparison is the thief of joy and there a few things you can do to prevent the comparison trap

Comparison is the thief of joy and there a few things you can do to prevent the comparison trap

3 ways to handle backhanded compliments

3 ways to handle backhanded compliments

How to respond when people tell you that they would have done it differently

How to respond when people tell you that they would have done it differently

Your dreams are often a subconscious holder for your insecurities

Your dreams are often a subconscious holder for your insecurities

3 great ways to respond to people who continue to being up your past

3 great ways to respond to people who continue to being up your past

Do not feel guilty or take on their expectations

Do not feel guilty or take on their expectations

Don’t let the success of others make you feel as though you are less than or behind in time

Don’t let the success of others make you feel as though you are less than or behind in time

Do you think you should just know because you’ve seen it once or you’ve experienced it once?

Do you think you should just know because you’ve seen it once or you’ve experienced it once?

Holding onto things is suffocating yourself

Holding onto things is suffocating yourself

Three overthinking tips for you to use today and every day thereafter

Three overthinking tips for you to use today and every day thereafter

They only have power if you give it to them

They only have power if you give it to them

Three reasons why no one owes you love, and why that’s actually a good thing

Three reasons why no one owes you love, and why that’s actually a good thing

Superpower activated

Superpower activated

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People will try to bait you into having a conversation or conflict

People will try to bait you into having a conversation or conflict

Your closure comes from within

Your closure comes from within

How to handle disappointments. disappointments are typically held in unmet expectations

How to handle disappointments. disappointments are typically held in unmet expectations

Not all control is obvious

Not all control is obvious

Everyone needs a listening ear but not anytime they want to

Everyone needs a listening ear but not anytime they want to

These affirmations are meant to be a starting point of action to be your own hero

These affirmations are meant to be a starting point of action to be your own hero

What is one truth you are avoiding? We often avoid the teuth we don’t want to accept

What is one truth you are avoiding? We often avoid the teuth we don’t want to accept

You did whatbyou did and said what you said

You did whatbyou did and said what you said

Self love is non negotiable

Self love is non negotiable

You are never a bad person for setting boundaries

You are never a bad person for setting boundaries

Boundaries are not walls, they are bridges to healthier relationships

Boundaries are not walls, they are bridges to healthier relationships

National mental health day is yet another reminder that you matter, and that you are a priority

National mental health day is yet another reminder that you matter, and that you are a priority

Stop doing things with desperate energy

Stop doing things with desperate energy

I thought you knew! #spiritualpractice #mediumship #loriwheeler #mindfulness

I thought you knew! #spiritualpractice #mediumship #loriwheeler #mindfulness

Don’t take on their insecurities . #insecure #insecurity #loriwheeler #affirmation

Don’t take on their insecurities . #insecure #insecurity #loriwheeler #affirmation

Do not ever carry the burden of someone else’s insecurities

Do not ever carry the burden of someone else’s insecurities

Stop waiting for motivation

Stop waiting for motivation

You under no obligation to show up to an event from a personal capacity that makes you uncomfortable

You under no obligation to show up to an event from a personal capacity that makes you uncomfortable

Do you want to be in your relationship? #relationships #loriwheeler #communication

Do you want to be in your relationship? #relationships #loriwheeler #communication

Don’t open your day up without askign why

Don’t open your day up without askign why

You are in full control of so many things that you keep giving your power to others

You are in full control of so many things that you keep giving your power to others

Understanding why people guilt trip will help you not get reactive

Understanding why people guilt trip will help you not get reactive

Do you know who you are? #whoareyou #loriwheeler #selflove #youarebeautiful

Do you know who you are? #whoareyou #loriwheeler #selflove #youarebeautiful

When someone invite you to go somewhere and you’re not sure who’s gonna be there feel free to always

When someone invite you to go somewhere and you’re not sure who’s gonna be there feel free to always

3 amazing reminders for yourself today

3 amazing reminders for yourself today

Three amazing affirmations and temonder for your day

Three amazing affirmations and temonder for your day

Share your needs and know you’re nonnegotiable but do not expect one specific person to meet those

Share your needs and know you’re nonnegotiable but do not expect one specific person to meet those

Psychological Projection: do uou know you’re doing it? #psychologicalprojection #loriwheeler

Psychological Projection: do uou know you’re doing it? #psychologicalprojection #loriwheeler

Play stupid games, get stupid prizes

Play stupid games, get stupid prizes

3 responses to the control tactic of “I want what’s best for you” #control #loriwheeler

3 responses to the control tactic of “I want what’s best for you” #control #loriwheeler

Control tactics for you to be aware of… #control #manipulation #loriwheeler #boundaries #guilt

Control tactics for you to be aware of… #control #manipulation #loriwheeler #boundaries #guilt

You create much of your own suffering

You create much of your own suffering

How ya living today? #mindset #loriwheeler #growthmindset

How ya living today? #mindset #loriwheeler #growthmindset

If the sound of a person’s name, text message or idea calls you an enormous amount of stress it is

If the sound of a person’s name, text message or idea calls you an enormous amount of stress it is

You are not obligated to fewl guilty for prioritizing yourself

You are not obligated to fewl guilty for prioritizing yourself

Why do you fewl obligated? #peoplepleasing #selfesteem #loriwheeler #boundaries #growthmindset

Why do you fewl obligated? #peoplepleasing #selfesteem #loriwheeler #boundaries #growthmindset

Do not get roped into their negativity and expectations.. #expectations #loriwheeler #boundaries

Do not get roped into their negativity and expectations.. #expectations #loriwheeler #boundaries

Better doesn’t mean good

Better doesn’t mean good

You are allowed to change the programs you were given by someone else

You are allowed to change the programs you were given by someone else

Embrace being the villian, its an amazing part of hwaling and growing

Embrace being the villian, its an amazing part of hwaling and growing

You have so much more power than you know

You have so much more power than you know

Are you living by your core values? #corevalues #loriwheeler #boundaries #emotionalintelligence

Are you living by your core values? #corevalues #loriwheeler #boundaries #emotionalintelligence

3 reminders for your morning

3 reminders for your morning

You are not responsible for their insecurities

You are not responsible for their insecurities

3 affirmations for you today

3 affirmations for you today

Stop apologizing gor things you don’t feel were wrong

Stop apologizing gor things you don’t feel were wrong

You absolutely belong in every room you walk into

You absolutely belong in every room you walk into

Do not take on someone else’s entitlement of opinion of what you ahould or ahouldn’t do

Do not take on someone else’s entitlement of opinion of what you ahould or ahouldn’t do

Remember that you were under no obligation to make a change for who you are until you are ready to

Remember that you were under no obligation to make a change for who you are until you are ready to

It only matters if you allow it to

It only matters if you allow it to

It only matters if you give value to it

It only matters if you give value to it

Do not take on their feelings about your life

Do not take on their feelings about your life

Three empowering affirmations for you to store into your toolbox today

Three empowering affirmations for you to store into your toolbox today

Do not engage

Do not engage

Three reminders to check your ego

Three reminders to check your ego

Protect your peace and don’t take on their insecurities

Protect your peace and don’t take on their insecurities

Their insecurities are not your issue

Their insecurities are not your issue

You never want to change for another person and you never want them to change for you

You never want to change for another person and you never want them to change for you

Stop waiting for it to change or be better

Stop waiting for it to change or be better

You can forgive but not allow access to you

You can forgive but not allow access to you

You can forgive but not allow access to you

You can forgive but not allow access to you

You can forgive but not allow access to you

You can forgive but not allow access to you

No one is in charge of your goals and you meeting them

No one is in charge of your goals and you meeting them

Do not allow their projections to make you second guess your choices

Do not allow their projections to make you second guess your choices

If they are doing this, you are doing something right

If they are doing this, you are doing something right

Set boundaries around their opinions

Set boundaries around their opinions

Save and share these reminders

Save and share these reminders

You deserve to show up for yourself

You deserve to show up for yourself

Confront the passive aggression

Confront the passive aggression

You are not responsible for their feelings in an expectation they have for you

You are not responsible for their feelings in an expectation they have for you

Repeat these affirmations everyday, all day if needed #affirmations #loriwheeler #boundaries

Repeat these affirmations everyday, all day if needed #affirmations #loriwheeler #boundaries

Pay attention to these two things when you are establishing boundaries

Pay attention to these two things when you are establishing boundaries

What are you going to do for you today and everyday thereafter? #selflove #loriwheeler

What are you going to do for you today and everyday thereafter? #selflove #loriwheeler

Don’t engage in smear campaigns

Don’t engage in smear campaigns

Block like its a profession

Block like its a profession

Do not feel obligated to do something someone signed you up for without asking! #boundaries

Do not feel obligated to do something someone signed you up for without asking! #boundaries

3 empowering affirmations

3 empowering affirmations

Things you are not responsible for

Things you are not responsible for

Stop overthinking their no

Stop overthinking their no

Don’t start a relationship based on hope of what could be

Don’t start a relationship based on hope of what could be

Have you experienced religious trauma? #religioustrauma #loriwheeler #spiritual #selfawareness

Have you experienced religious trauma? #religioustrauma #loriwheeler #spiritual #selfawareness

Your why has to be stronger than your excuses

Your why has to be stronger than your excuses

Do you do this? #adhd #neurodivergent #loriwheeler

Do you do this? #adhd #neurodivergent #loriwheeler

Are they your goals or someone else’s? #goals #peoplepleasing #loriwheeler #attachmenttheory

Are they your goals or someone else’s? #goals #peoplepleasing #loriwheeler #attachmenttheory

Do you drive yourself separate? What are some things that you do? #socialbattery #loriwheeler

Do you drive yourself separate? What are some things that you do? #socialbattery #loriwheeler

Are you giving too much grace to people? #boundaries #loriwheeler #selfawareness #relationships

Are you giving too much grace to people? #boundaries #loriwheeler #selfawareness #relationships

Don’t blame yourself for the things you did when you didnt know better

Don’t blame yourself for the things you did when you didnt know better

Being kind is free

Being kind is free

The more empowerment you get the more dangerous you become to those you benefitted from you not

The more empowerment you get the more dangerous you become to those you benefitted from you not

Its ok to distance from relationships

Its ok to distance from relationships

Let em think what they want

Let em think what they want

Are you limiting yourself from the victim mentality negative complainers? #complainers

Are you limiting yourself from the victim mentality negative complainers? #complainers

Do you feel obligated to have a relationship with them? #relationships #loriwheeler #boundaries

Do you feel obligated to have a relationship with them? #relationships #loriwheeler #boundaries

Do you fewl obligated to change? #confidence #relationships #loriwheeler #selove #growthmindset

Do you fewl obligated to change? #confidence #relationships #loriwheeler #selove #growthmindset

Are your prioritizing yourself? #selflove #loriwheeler #boundaries #growthmindset

Are your prioritizing yourself? #selflove #loriwheeler #boundaries #growthmindset

Holding boundaries is your responsibility

Holding boundaries is your responsibility

Are you ignoring red flags? #redflags #relationships #loriwheeler #attachmenttheory

Are you ignoring red flags? #redflags #relationships #loriwheeler #attachmenttheory

You do NOT hsve to stay in things that make you uncomfortable

You do NOT hsve to stay in things that make you uncomfortable

You do NOT hsve to stay in things that make you uncomfortable

You do NOT hsve to stay in things that make you uncomfortable

Separating your thoughts and diffusing them from words will help you

Separating your thoughts and diffusing them from words will help you

Don’t let them try to force relationships

Don’t let them try to force relationships

People will not believe you when you prioritize yourself

People will not believe you when you prioritize yourself

Three affirmations for you today and everyday

Three affirmations for you today and everyday

You’re version of busy is always valid

You’re version of busy is always valid

Do you have people who are mad that you are not mad or upset that they are mad? #boundaries

Do you have people who are mad that you are not mad or upset that they are mad? #boundaries

Are you holdong onto people? #confidence #loriwheeler #growthmentality #relationships

Are you holdong onto people? #confidence #loriwheeler #growthmentality #relationships

Your busy is valid

Your busy is valid

Don’t ever be activated by their insecurities of judgment

Don’t ever be activated by their insecurities of judgment

You have the power ❤️ #confidence #loriwheeler #growthjourney #selfconfidence

You have the power ❤️ #confidence #loriwheeler #growthjourney #selfconfidence

Do you know people who want you to do what they want you to because of their image? #insecurity

Do you know people who want you to do what they want you to because of their image? #insecurity

Are you ok being considered rude, selfish or wrong? #confidence #boundaries #loriwheeler

Are you ok being considered rude, selfish or wrong? #confidence #boundaries #loriwheeler

Think before you respond to “What are you doing Saturday” #boundaries #loriwheeler #selfdiscipline

Think before you respond to “What are you doing Saturday” #boundaries #loriwheeler #selfdiscipline

Self discipline is what allows you to reach your goals

Self discipline is what allows you to reach your goals

Are you holding boundaries when people press you? #boundaries #loriwheeler #growthmentality

Are you holding boundaries when people press you? #boundaries #loriwheeler #growthmentality

There are zero exceptions to this

There are zero exceptions to this

You will be ok when…

You will be ok when…

Do you have e exhaustive people in your life? #relationships #boundaries #loriwheeler

Do you have e exhaustive people in your life? #relationships #boundaries #loriwheeler

Are you maintaining your level of autonomy? #autonomy #loriwheeler #relationships #boundaries

Are you maintaining your level of autonomy? #autonomy #loriwheeler #relationships #boundaries

It’s not a boundary unless it carries a consequence and you’re willing to enforce that consequence

It’s not a boundary unless it carries a consequence and you’re willing to enforce that consequence

If its draining you its drowning you

If its draining you its drowning you

Do you prioritize yourself? #selflove #confidence #loriwheeler #growthmentality

Do you prioritize yourself? #selflove #confidence #loriwheeler #growthmentality

Stop saying “it’s hard” reframe that to “its callenging” #growthmentality #loriwheeler

Stop saying “it’s hard” reframe that to “its callenging” #growthmentality #loriwheeler

Why do you focus on their opinions? #opinions #loriwheeler #boundaries #confidence #selfawareness

Why do you focus on their opinions? #opinions #loriwheeler #boundaries #confidence #selfawareness

3 important affirmations #affirmations #loriwheeler #selfawareness #boundaries

3 important affirmations #affirmations #loriwheeler #selfawareness #boundaries

Letting go is freeing yourself

Letting go is freeing yourself

Are you in alignment with the vibrational people who are on your path? #growthjourney

Are you in alignment with the vibrational people who are on your path? #growthjourney