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When is it Time to Switch from Couple Therapy to Individual Therapy?

When is it Time to Switch from Couple Therapy to Individual Therapy?

Clinician Self-Care: "Rolling In & Rolling Out" Our Clients' Emotions

Clinician Self-Care: "Rolling In & Rolling Out" Our Clients' Emotions

When Clients' Progress in Session Doesn't Translate to Home

When Clients' Progress in Session Doesn't Translate to Home

Withdrawer Re-Engagement and Pursuer Softening Summarized

Withdrawer Re-Engagement and Pursuer Softening Summarized

Confirming a Couple is Ready for Stage 2 of EFT

Confirming a Couple is Ready for Stage 2 of EFT

How Are Longings Different from Needs?

How Are Longings Different from Needs?

Ordering Emotions in EFT

Ordering Emotions in EFT

When Your Attachment Style Causes Blind Spots in EFT

When Your Attachment Style Causes Blind Spots in EFT

What Parts of Stage 1 Inform Stage 2 of EFT?

What Parts of Stage 1 Inform Stage 2 of EFT?

The Needs of Pursuers and Withdrawers

The Needs of Pursuers and Withdrawers

How to Describe Stage 2 to a Couple in EFT

How to Describe Stage 2 to a Couple in EFT

How Long Should We Spend on the Withdrawer's Inner World?

How Long Should We Spend on the Withdrawer's Inner World?

Engaging with Hopelessness in an EFT Session

Engaging with Hopelessness in an EFT Session

When Clients Get Lost in Content

When Clients Get Lost in Content

Wedging Yourself Between A Client and Their Shame

Wedging Yourself Between A Client and Their Shame

First Stretch the Window of Tolerance, Then Address Conflicting Client Needs

First Stretch the Window of Tolerance, Then Address Conflicting Client Needs

Racial Trauma and Embracing the Uncomfortable Unknown

Racial Trauma and Embracing the Uncomfortable Unknown

Introducing Discussion of Race, Culture, and Ethnicity in EFT Session

Introducing Discussion of Race, Culture, and Ethnicity in EFT Session

Handling Irreconcilable Differences in EFT

Handling Irreconcilable Differences in EFT

Handling a Pursuer's "Task List" in EFT

Handling a Pursuer's "Task List" in EFT

Owning Scary Emotions in EFT

Owning Scary Emotions in EFT

Matching Emotion for Empathy and Resonance in EFT

Matching Emotion for Empathy and Resonance in EFT

Sending Signals of Love by Reframing Secondary Emotion in EFT

Sending Signals of Love by Reframing Secondary Emotion in EFT

When the Pursuer Isn't Softening in EFT

When the Pursuer Isn't Softening in EFT

3 Tips to Identify Pursuers & Withdrawers in EFT

3 Tips to Identify Pursuers & Withdrawers in EFT

Amplifying the Suffering in EFT

Amplifying the Suffering in EFT

Handling Affairs in EFT Session

Handling Affairs in EFT Session

When Couples Want Different Things in EFT

When Couples Want Different Things in EFT

When Individual Therapy Conflicts with EFT Couples Therapy

When Individual Therapy Conflicts with EFT Couples Therapy

Appeasing as a Coping Strategy in EFT

Appeasing as a Coping Strategy in EFT

Addressing Suspected Narcissism in EFT

Addressing Suspected Narcissism in EFT

Attunement Trumps the Recipe in EFT

Attunement Trumps the Recipe in EFT

Pockets of Pain in Withdrawer Reengagement in EFT

Pockets of Pain in Withdrawer Reengagement in EFT

When the Pursuer is Burnt Out in EFT

When the Pursuer is Burnt Out in EFT

The Myth of Self Soothing in EFT

The Myth of Self Soothing in EFT

The Essence of Limbic Resonance in EFT

The Essence of Limbic Resonance in EFT

Separating the Client from their Inner Critic in EFT

Separating the Client from their Inner Critic in EFT

Repairing Alliance Ruptures in EFT

Repairing Alliance Ruptures in EFT

Handling Withdrawer Ambivalence in EFT

Handling Withdrawer Ambivalence in EFT

Evoking Emotion with Enactments in EFT

Evoking Emotion with Enactments in EFT

When the Withdrawer is Done Placating in EFT

When the Withdrawer is Done Placating in EFT

Working With Couples via Telehealth in EFT

Working With Couples via Telehealth in EFT

Why Withdrawers Feel Not Good Enough

Why Withdrawers Feel Not Good Enough

When One Partner "Rescues" the Other In EFT

When One Partner "Rescues" the Other In EFT

What is Pre-EFT?

What is Pre-EFT?

Handling a Client's Shame Responses in EFT

Handling a Client's Shame Responses in EFT

Validating the Secondary When an Affair is Revealed in EFT

Validating the Secondary When an Affair is Revealed in EFT

When the Client and Clinician Are at Cross-Purposes in EFT

When the Client and Clinician Are at Cross-Purposes in EFT

The Withdrawer "Stuff and Blow" in EFT

The Withdrawer "Stuff and Blow" in EFT

Process Comments and "Small-T" Trauma in EFT

Process Comments and "Small-T" Trauma in EFT

Prioritizing Emotional Safety in EFT

Prioritizing Emotional Safety in EFT

Making the Dilemma Explicit with Process Comments in EFT

Making the Dilemma Explicit with Process Comments in EFT

The Cycle of Sexual Reassurance and Safety in EFT

The Cycle of Sexual Reassurance and Safety in EFT

EFT Stage 1 and Couple Empathy

EFT Stage 1 and Couple Empathy

Reframing Shame as Overwhelm in EFT

Reframing Shame as Overwhelm in EFT

Dealing With Angry Husbands in EFT

Dealing With Angry Husbands in EFT

Dealing With A Distant Withdrawer in EFT

Dealing With A Distant Withdrawer in EFT

Attuning With An Adamant Withdrawer in EFT

Attuning With An Adamant Withdrawer in EFT

When the Clients Say "Everything's Good!"

When the Clients Say "Everything's Good!"

Handling Jealousy with EFT

Handling Jealousy with EFT

The Link Between Emotion and Behavior in EFT

The Link Between Emotion and Behavior in EFT

Emotional Rigidity in EFT Stage 1

Emotional Rigidity in EFT Stage 1

Attuning with Withdrawers in EFT

Attuning with Withdrawers in EFT

When the Couple Talks to Each Other, Not You

When the Couple Talks to Each Other, Not You

When the Client Rejects Validation

When the Client Rejects Validation

When Obesity Affects Sexual Attraction

When Obesity Affects Sexual Attraction

What is "Earned Security"?

What is "Earned Security"?

What if Clients Want Homework?

What if Clients Want Homework?

Staying Relevant: Attachment Frame & Session 4

Staying Relevant: Attachment Frame & Session 4

Feeling Stuck in Stage 1

Feeling Stuck in Stage 1

Dealing With Highly Escalated Pursuers

Dealing With Highly Escalated Pursuers

How to Deal with Fatigue and Mistakes in EFT

How to Deal with Fatigue and Mistakes in EFT

Handling Withdraw / Withdraw Couples in EFT

Handling Withdraw / Withdraw Couples in EFT

Fair Disclosure in EFT

Fair Disclosure in EFT

Experiential Contact in EFT

Experiential Contact in EFT

Dealing With Discouragement in EFT

Dealing With Discouragement in EFT

Concluding EFT Therapy When the Couple's Relationship Ends

Concluding EFT Therapy When the Couple's Relationship Ends

The Both/And of Sexual and Emotional Connection in EFT

The Both/And of Sexual and Emotional Connection in EFT

Relational Blocks and Exits in EFT

Relational Blocks and Exits in EFT

EFT Roleplay: Blocking a Pursuer's Exit of Blame

EFT Roleplay: Blocking a Pursuer's Exit of Blame

Collecting Experiential Data in EFT

Collecting Experiential Data in EFT

Handling Antivaxxer Struggles in EFT

Handling Antivaxxer Struggles in EFT

When a Couple Gets Stuck in EFT

When a Couple Gets Stuck in EFT

Client Trauma and the Ukraine War

Client Trauma and the Ukraine War

Helping Couples Separate in EFT

Helping Couples Separate in EFT

Race, Culture, Ethnicity, and EFT

Race, Culture, Ethnicity, and EFT

3 Hot Tips for Drawing In a Withdrawer in EFT

3 Hot Tips for Drawing In a Withdrawer in EFT

Painful Financial Matters in EFT

Painful Financial Matters in EFT

Handling a Reluctant Partner in EFT

Handling a Reluctant Partner in EFT

Avoiding Burnout as an EFT Clinician in this Difficult Time

Avoiding Burnout as an EFT Clinician in this Difficult Time

Being Transparent About Stage 2 | Kathryn Rheem & Jennifer Olden | EFT Café

Being Transparent About Stage 2 | Kathryn Rheem & Jennifer Olden | EFT Café

Stage 1 Pieces Which Inform Stage 2 | Kathryn Rheem & Jennifer Olden | EFT Café

Stage 1 Pieces Which Inform Stage 2 | Kathryn Rheem & Jennifer Olden | EFT Café

Withdrawers Who Don't Want to be in the Session | Kathryn Rheem & Jennifer Olden | EFT Café

Withdrawers Who Don't Want to be in the Session | Kathryn Rheem & Jennifer Olden | EFT Café