Канал: The Doherty Relationship Institute, LLC

Clients Don't Owe Us Anything

Clients Don't Owe Us Anything

Transparency as a Key Couples Therapy Tone

Transparency as a Key Couples Therapy Tone

Separating Couples Therapy into Individual Therapy

Separating Couples Therapy into Individual Therapy

Scaffolding: Underdiscussed but Essential in Couples Therapy

Scaffolding: Underdiscussed but Essential in Couples Therapy

One Diagnosis Does Not Make The Marriage Problem

One Diagnosis Does Not Make The Marriage Problem

A Couples Therapist, “But…”

A Couples Therapist, “But…”

How Single Theories Blind or Over Emphasize

How Single Theories Blind or Over Emphasize

Autonomy

Autonomy

Comedy Not Tragedy

Comedy Not Tragedy

Agency

Agency

Attribution Theory

Attribution Theory

A Great Performance in the Clinical Room

A Great Performance in the Clinical Room

The Magic Of Structure

The Magic Of Structure

Dr. Bill Doherty Talks about Discernment Counseling

Dr. Bill Doherty Talks about Discernment Counseling

Deeper Interaction Patterns Training

Deeper Interaction Patterns Training

Limits of a Unifying Theory

Limits of a Unifying Theory

10 Years and Growing

10 Years and Growing

The Most Startling A-Ha

The Most Startling A-Ha

Efficacious

Efficacious

How Discernment Counseling Works

How Discernment Counseling Works

Why Discernment Counseling Works

Why Discernment Counseling Works

Who Discernment Counseling is for (and who it isn't for)

Who Discernment Counseling is for (and who it isn't for)

What to Expect on a Discernment Counseling Individual Phone Screen

What to Expect on a Discernment Counseling Individual Phone Screen

Exactly What to Do Before Contacting a Discernment Counselor

Exactly What to Do Before Contacting a Discernment Counselor

Bringing Up Discernment Counseling to Your Leaning Out Spouse

Bringing Up Discernment Counseling to Your Leaning Out Spouse

What to Expect as a Leaning In Spouse in Discernment Counseling

What to Expect as a Leaning In Spouse in Discernment Counseling

Your World Is Turned Upside Down: Your Spouse Just Brought Up Divorce

Your World Is Turned Upside Down: Your Spouse Just Brought Up Divorce

When Your Spouse Brings Up Divorce in Couples Therapy

When Your Spouse Brings Up Divorce in Couples Therapy

What to Expect as a Leaning Out Spouse in Discernment Counseling

What to Expect as a Leaning Out Spouse in Discernment Counseling

Learning More Before a Final Divorce Decision

Learning More Before a Final Divorce Decision

Uncertain About Staying Married?

Uncertain About Staying Married?

Why Couples Therapy May Be Failing You (If You Are Uncertain About Staying Married)

Why Couples Therapy May Be Failing You (If You Are Uncertain About Staying Married)

A Powerful Frame for Understanding Marital Conflict in Plain Language

A Powerful Frame for Understanding Marital Conflict in Plain Language

Why It’s Natural Couples Therapy Models Exclude On the Brink Couples

Why It’s Natural Couples Therapy Models Exclude On the Brink Couples

Our Goals vs Couples Goals

Our Goals vs Couples Goals

Motivation for Change

Motivation for Change

Poor Baby, What a Jerk Therapy

Poor Baby, What a Jerk Therapy

One Size Doesn't Fit All

One Size Doesn't Fit All

Asking Endless Whys

Asking Endless Whys

A New Service

A New Service

The Power of a Scene It

The Power of a Scene It

Discernment Counseling is Intense but Doable

Discernment Counseling is Intense but Doable

Self of the Relational Therapist

Self of the Relational Therapist

Offering Comfort and Growth

Offering Comfort and Growth

Therapists Discussing Men… A Quick Pause

Therapists Discussing Men… A Quick Pause

The Toughest Case: Leaning out in an Active Affair While Considering Divorce

The Toughest Case: Leaning out in an Active Affair While Considering Divorce

Fragility Redefined for Couples Therapy

Fragility Redefined for Couples Therapy

Myth that Discernment Counseling is Cognitive or Coaching

Myth that Discernment Counseling is Cognitive or Coaching

Rant: Commitment is Invisible In Our Field

Rant: Commitment is Invisible In Our Field

Two Rule Outs for Discernment Counseling

Two Rule Outs for Discernment Counseling

Agenda Setting in Couples Therapy When One Partner Never Has One

Agenda Setting in Couples Therapy When One Partner Never Has One

Being On the Same Page About…Not Being On The Same Page

Being On the Same Page About…Not Being On The Same Page

The Trap of “Fix My Spouse”

The Trap of “Fix My Spouse”

The Trap of Too Much Empathy Without Challenge

The Trap of Too Much Empathy Without Challenge

How You Clinically Lean and Risks to Your Couples Therapy System

How You Clinically Lean and Risks to Your Couples Therapy System

Ensuring “No Surprises” Safety Inside Discernment Counseling

Ensuring “No Surprises” Safety Inside Discernment Counseling

Knowing Where the Clinical Stuckness Is Located

Knowing Where the Clinical Stuckness Is Located

Most Couples Therapy Models Have No Commitment Framework and Why This Matters

Most Couples Therapy Models Have No Commitment Framework and Why This Matters

The Consumer Culture Of Marriage

The Consumer Culture Of Marriage

Hard vs Soft Problems And Why They Matter

Hard vs Soft Problems And Why They Matter

We Don’t Focus Enough On Therapists Individual Relationships With Each Individual Spouse

We Don’t Focus Enough On Therapists Individual Relationships With Each Individual Spouse

We Have a Gap as Couples Therapists (We are Regular People, too!)

We Have a Gap as Couples Therapists (We are Regular People, too!)

Therapy Used to be Female-Deficit… Now Male Deficit

Therapy Used to be Female-Deficit… Now Male Deficit

Helping Spouses With Separate Needs at the Same Time

Helping Spouses With Separate Needs at the Same Time

Tough Couple Presentation Around a Medical Crisis (Behavioral vs Emotional Lens)

Tough Couple Presentation Around a Medical Crisis (Behavioral vs Emotional Lens)

Why It’s Crucial Both Spouses Are Scheduled Together

Why It’s Crucial Both Spouses Are Scheduled Together

Eager Beaver and Turtle Couples Therapy

Eager Beaver and Turtle Couples Therapy

Why Short-Term Work is Preferable to Long Term Therapy Work for Couples On the Brink

Why Short-Term Work is Preferable to Long Term Therapy Work for Couples On the Brink

Rant: Viewing a Spouse as Individually Impaired Before Being Capable of Marriage Counseling

Rant: Viewing a Spouse as Individually Impaired Before Being Capable of Marriage Counseling

Moving Faster Than Multi-Session Assessments

Moving Faster Than Multi-Session Assessments

Why Really Good Couples Therapy Skills are Required

Why Really Good Couples Therapy Skills are Required

The Benefit of Guilt in Couples Therapy

The Benefit of Guilt in Couples Therapy

How Not to Be Awkward with a Couple On The Brink of Divorce

How Not to Be Awkward with a Couple On The Brink of Divorce

Regular Couples Therapy for Brink Couples is a Therapy Structure Problem Not Therapist Confidence

Regular Couples Therapy for Brink Couples is a Therapy Structure Problem Not Therapist Confidence

Finding Leverage in Couples Therapy: Ask What They Want to Work On

Finding Leverage in Couples Therapy: Ask What They Want to Work On

Accept That Which Won’t Change in Couples Therapy

Accept That Which Won’t Change in Couples Therapy

A Missing or Underplayed Aspect to Helping with Divorce Ambivalence

A Missing or Underplayed Aspect to Helping with Divorce Ambivalence

Addressing Contempt In Couples Therapy In a Relational Way

Addressing Contempt In Couples Therapy In a Relational Way

A Reason Discernment Counseling’s Path 3 (Couples Therapy) Is Only 6 Months

A Reason Discernment Counseling’s Path 3 (Couples Therapy) Is Only 6 Months

Deep Collaboration With Therapist Leadership

Deep Collaboration With Therapist Leadership

A Balanced and Deeper Approach for Couples On The Brink of Divorce

A Balanced and Deeper Approach for Couples On The Brink of Divorce

Real Couples Therapy Versus Individual Therapy Disguised as Couples Therapy

Real Couples Therapy Versus Individual Therapy Disguised as Couples Therapy

Discernment Counseling Isn't Another Approach to Couples Therapy

Discernment Counseling Isn't Another Approach to Couples Therapy

A Mistake In Affair Recovery and A Key Intervention

A Mistake In Affair Recovery and A Key Intervention

Rant: Couples Therapists Require "Feeling Talk" as Proof a Spouse is "Working Hard"

Rant: Couples Therapists Require "Feeling Talk" as Proof a Spouse is "Working Hard"

Divorce Ambivalence Is Very Real and Deserves Specialized Support

Divorce Ambivalence Is Very Real and Deserves Specialized Support

Mindset Shift from Specific Therapy Interventions to EVERY Moment Is An Intervention

Mindset Shift from Specific Therapy Interventions to EVERY Moment Is An Intervention

Discernment Counseling Sees Beyond Feelings (and Logical Lists of Pros and Cons)

Discernment Counseling Sees Beyond Feelings (and Logical Lists of Pros and Cons)

Three Blind Spots In Couples Therapy As A Field

Three Blind Spots In Couples Therapy As A Field

Discernment Counseling Improves The Couples Therapy

Discernment Counseling Improves The Couples Therapy

"Session Hygiene" in Couples Therapy Makes the Work More Enjoyable and Beneficial For Everyone

"Session Hygiene" in Couples Therapy Makes the Work More Enjoyable and Beneficial For Everyone

Helping Someone With Self-Knowledge Inside a Marriage On The Brink

Helping Someone With Self-Knowledge Inside a Marriage On The Brink

Never Assume a Pursue Distancer Pattern Before Answering These Two Questions

Never Assume a Pursue Distancer Pattern Before Answering These Two Questions

Supporting Couples In Their Darkest Hour With Research-Informed Therapy

Supporting Couples In Their Darkest Hour With Research-Informed Therapy

Challenging A Spouse Who Isn't Seeing Their Destructiveness

Challenging A Spouse Who Isn't Seeing Their Destructiveness

Offering a Soft Container to Deeply Challenge Someone to See Their Own Role

Offering a Soft Container to Deeply Challenge Someone to See Their Own Role

The Therapeutic Alliance is Not Just Being Nice and Respectful

The Therapeutic Alliance is Not Just Being Nice and Respectful

How We Take the Common "My Spouse Is/Does" Focused Mindset and Help Someone Look At Themselves

How We Take the Common "My Spouse Is/Does" Focused Mindset and Help Someone Look At Themselves

Rant: History Gathering Can Drain Couples Therapy vs Starting to Treat Current Negative Interactions

Rant: History Gathering Can Drain Couples Therapy vs Starting to Treat Current Negative Interactions

Power of Seeing A Leaning In Spouses Thoughts Not Landing with a Leaning Out Spouse

Power of Seeing A Leaning In Spouses Thoughts Not Landing with a Leaning Out Spouse

The Subtle and Vital Concept of Power in Couples Therapy

The Subtle and Vital Concept of Power in Couples Therapy

Rethinking the Pursue/Withdraw Pattern

Rethinking the Pursue/Withdraw Pattern

Individuals Can Flip Stances Towards Ending or Saving Their Marriage

Individuals Can Flip Stances Towards Ending or Saving Their Marriage

Rant Blaming a Client for Bad Couples Therapy

Rant Blaming a Client for Bad Couples Therapy

A Toxic Dynamic Of One Spouse Saying I Carry the Emotional Load for This Marriage

A Toxic Dynamic Of One Spouse Saying I Carry the Emotional Load for This Marriage

Self Awareness Does Not Always Lead to Change

Self Awareness Does Not Always Lead to Change

Pulled Towards a More Difficult To Us Spouse and Unbalance the Couples Therapy

Pulled Towards a More Difficult To Us Spouse and Unbalance the Couples Therapy

Why a Top Marital Complaint Neither Impresses or Depresses Us

Why a Top Marital Complaint Neither Impresses or Depresses Us

Not Pursing Couples Therapy If Someone on the Brink Doesn't Want to Own Their Contributions

Not Pursing Couples Therapy If Someone on the Brink Doesn't Want to Own Their Contributions

Multiproblem Couples Are At the Mercy of the Therapist

Multiproblem Couples Are At the Mercy of the Therapist

Why Couples On The Brink Need ER Level Care

Why Couples On The Brink Need ER Level Care

Skin in the Game If a Spouse Says They Think Things Are Fine

Skin in the Game If a Spouse Says They Think Things Are Fine

Why Affair Related Apologies Aren't a Key Focus in Discernment Counseling

Why Affair Related Apologies Aren't a Key Focus in Discernment Counseling

Too Invisible In Couples Therapy: Treatment Approaches With External Stressors

Too Invisible In Couples Therapy: Treatment Approaches With External Stressors

Marital Problems Aren't Just A Dance of Feelings

Marital Problems Aren't Just A Dance of Feelings

Helping A Betrayed Spouse Who Still Wants to Save Their Marriage

Helping A Betrayed Spouse Who Still Wants to Save Their Marriage

2 Healthier Ways to Conceptualize Defensiveness in a Spouse

2 Healthier Ways to Conceptualize Defensiveness in a Spouse

How to Avoid "Check the Box We Tried Couples Therapy"

How to Avoid "Check the Box We Tried Couples Therapy"

The Couples Therapy Field Lacks a Way to Prioritize Where to Start with Multi-Problem Couples

The Couples Therapy Field Lacks a Way to Prioritize Where to Start with Multi-Problem Couples

Futurecasting Good Couples Therapy (Especially If They Didn't Get It Before)

Futurecasting Good Couples Therapy (Especially If They Didn't Get It Before)

Spouses Rewrite Their History When They are Leaning Out

Spouses Rewrite Their History When They are Leaning Out

When the "Bad Guy" is the One Leaning Out

When the "Bad Guy" is the One Leaning Out

Leading or Pacing As A Vital Couples Therapy Skill

Leading or Pacing As A Vital Couples Therapy Skill

Incomplete Marital Narratives

Incomplete Marital Narratives

Fragility of the 3 Way Couples Therapy System If One Person Presents as Much More Vulnerable

Fragility of the 3 Way Couples Therapy System If One Person Presents as Much More Vulnerable

Dating Indecision Does Not Equate with Marital Indecision to Divorce

Dating Indecision Does Not Equate with Marital Indecision to Divorce

Helping Couples Without Unpacking Endless Causes of their Distress

Helping Couples Without Unpacking Endless Causes of their Distress

The Importance of Path One in Discernment Counseling

The Importance of Path One in Discernment Counseling

Couples on the Brink

Couples on the Brink

What is Discernment Counseling?

What is Discernment Counseling?

Introduction to Discernment Counseling

Introduction to Discernment Counseling

We Lack a Way to Prioritize Where to Start with Multi-Problem Couples

We Lack a Way to Prioritize Where to Start with Multi-Problem Couples

Therapists Quitting on Couples Because of Individual Issues

Therapists Quitting on Couples Because of Individual Issues

Family Firo Introduction

Family Firo Introduction

Too Invisible In Couples Therapy Treatment Approaches With External Stressors

Too Invisible In Couples Therapy Treatment Approaches With External Stressors

Three Levels of Agitation to a Marriage And Why They Matter

Three Levels of Agitation to a Marriage And Why They Matter

Fragility of the 3 Ways Couples Therapy System if One Person Presents As Much More Vulnerable

Fragility of the 3 Ways Couples Therapy System if One Person Presents As Much More Vulnerable

Skin in The Game if a Spouse Says They Think Things are Fine

Skin in The Game if a Spouse Says They Think Things are Fine

Path One in Discernment Counseling

Path One in Discernment Counseling

Common Factors in All Good Couples Therapy

Common Factors in All Good Couples Therapy

Helping Couples Without Unpacking The Endless Causes of Their Distress

Helping Couples Without Unpacking The Endless Causes of Their Distress

Attachment and Differentiation as Culture Bound Concepts

Attachment and Differentiation as Culture Bound Concepts

Why a Top Marital Complaint Neither Impresses or Depresses Us

Why a Top Marital Complaint Neither Impresses or Depresses Us

How Discernment Counseling is Not Coaching

How Discernment Counseling is Not Coaching

Couples Appreciate and Value Self Learning From Discernment Counseling

Couples Appreciate and Value Self Learning From Discernment Counseling

Why Has The Couples Therapy Field Ignored Couples On The Brink Of Divorce

Why Has The Couples Therapy Field Ignored Couples On The Brink Of Divorce

If Someone in Couples Therapy Brings Up Divorce, Treat it as and Emergency Because it is.

If Someone in Couples Therapy Brings Up Divorce, Treat it as and Emergency Because it is.

The Number One Reason Customers on the Brink are Hard

The Number One Reason Customers on the Brink are Hard

About Our Channel

About Our Channel

Myth: Most Marriages Go Downhill and Improve When the Kids Leave Home

Myth: Most Marriages Go Downhill and Improve When the Kids Leave Home

Limitations of Research

Limitations of Research

2 Myths About Stonewalling in Marriage and Why They Matter

2 Myths About Stonewalling in Marriage and Why They Matter

What Happens to Couples on the Brink?

What Happens to Couples on the Brink?

Four Attitudes of Divorcing Individuals

Four Attitudes of Divorcing Individuals

"They Decided to Get Divorced"

"They Decided to Get Divorced"

Are Kids Better Off with Divorced Parents or Unhappy Parents?

Are Kids Better Off with Divorced Parents or Unhappy Parents?

The Myth of the 50% Divorce Rate

The Myth of the 50% Divorce Rate

Helping Couples video

Helping Couples video

DRI - 6 Year Marriage Therapy Delay is a Myth

DRI - 6 Year Marriage Therapy Delay is a Myth

Levels of Involvement

Levels of Involvement