Have you ever had an encounter with someone that just absolutely turned you against them? Or do you have people you work with that just rub you the wrong way? In this video, I'll explain the concept of Radical Acceptance, the idea that if you can accept people as they are, you'll rid yourself of the negativity of perceived conflict.

I took an extended vacation with my family some time ago and was faced with the reality that there were aspects of them I wasn't crazy about (in the moment and stage of our vacation!). In reading Gary John Bishop's work, he mentions that there are things in your house that don't make your life better or worse, they just are. Things like doorknobs. You accept the doorknobs in your house completely, exactly as they are.

Radical acceptance of other people is like seeing the faults or missteps of others and just saying to yourself, "eh, doorknobs." Radically accepting others exactly as they are, just as I did with my family on vacation, will eliminate the negative feelings and frustrations almost immediately. Keep this in mind, they're frustrating you because you have expectations of how they should behave according to YOUR preferences. Not theirs.

In the video, I also share information about the four Social Styles, created by Tracom: Analytical, Amiable, Expressive, and Driver. When I came to understand the social styles at a deeper level, it became much much easier to accept people as they are.

When you know that drivers are quick to the point and show little emotion, it's far easier to not get offended by their natural tendencies.

When you know that amiables are generally really warm and friendly, sometimes acquiescing when they should be speaking up, you'll understand how their ideas are often overlooked.

When you understand that analyticals need data and information to make a decision, you'll give them a pass when they continually ask why.

And if you're living or working with an expressive, you'll come to appreciate the fact that they dominate conversations, are great story tellers, and love ideas more than they love the implementation of the ideas.

For more information on social styles, check out www.Tracom.com or search YouTube for more social styles videos.

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Adam Carroll is the author of The Build a Bigger Life Manifesto and the founder of the Build a Bigger Life Retreat held in magical places throughout the US. Find out more at www.buildabiggerlife.com/retreat.

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