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“My Ex Loves Me. Why Won’t They Come Back?”
What’s up Youtube, today I’ll be answering a question I get all the time: “My ex says they love me. So why won’t they come back so we can be together?” The answer to this question is probably not what you think. Because it actually means that you may have a second chance with your ex. And I’ll tell you how to get it.
Hi, I’m Brad Browning, the so-called Ex Back Geek and author of the Ex Factor Guide. If you haven’t already, don’t forget to subscribe to this channel for a brand new video every week.
So first off, if you’re asking this question, you need to know that you’re not alone. I’ve been working as a breakup coach for over ten years now and I have clients come to me with this question on a weekly basis. If your ex loves you, and you love them, then why won’t they come back?
Well the short answer is that love doesn’t just disappear overnight. I’m sure I don’t have to tell you that. After all, you’re watching this video because you want to get your ex back even though you broke up weeks, months, or even years ago.
So chances are your ex is going through something similar as well. You see just because they decided to end the relationship, it doesn’t mean that they flipped a switch and suddenly have no feelings for you at all.
In fact, they might even be feeling more powerful feelings of love for you than they did when you two were together. Because towards the end of your relationship things were probably not perfect. Now that the relationship is over, they’re no longer worried about your future together. Instead of getting caught up trying to fix what’s wrong, they’re just simply missing your presence in their life. And, as you know, absence really does make the heart grow fonder.
This is why your ex may still say “I love you” in certain situations. It’s more than just a slip of the tongue. They’re actually telling you the truth, as hard as this can be to understand. So while some of you may worry that your ex is just telling you what you want to hear and doesn't actually love you at all, rest assured that this is very rarely the case.
Right about now you’re probably asking, “But, Brad, if they still love me then why aren’t we together?” And that’s the million dollar question.
It’s because, in your case, they didn’t end the relationship because they fell out of love with you. And this is actually a very good thing because a loss of love is one of the more difficult problems to overcome.
The real reason that your relationship ended was not a loss of love but a loss of excitement and attraction. This might not sound as bad as falling out of love, and it isn’t, but don’t pat yourself on the back just yet. Attraction and excitement are vital to a happy, functional relationship.
I’m going to tell you some tactics you can use to rebuild your ex’s attraction for you and present yourself as a more exciting option, but first let’s talk about what won’t work. As I’ve mentioned, your ex has made it pretty clear that love was not what was lacking in your relationship, so you need to know that telling your ex you love them, explaining how they make you feel, and begging and pleading for them to come back to you, aren’t going to make them change their mind about the breakup.
In fact, these actions will actually hurt your chances with your ex in several ways. First off, you’re ignoring their wishes. People don’t like to feel like they’re not listened to. I’m sure your ex was pretty clear about wanting to put an end to this relationship and by simply steamrolling the conversation into how much you love them and miss them, and begging for them to come back, you’re telling them that their feelings weren’t as important as yours. This is a major turnoff.
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