0:00) Dr. Joe Beam: At Marriage Helper, we are experts when it comes to relationships. That's what we do. As a matter of fact, we’re really in the love business, helping people learn how to be in love, sometimes even how to find the right love when they're single people, how to develop and deepen their love when they're married to each other and, when necessary, how to rescue lost love.

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So, that means that some of work we do we do with people whose marriages are in trouble. And you could imagine the kind of stories we hear, because the people that contact us are typically the ones who want to save the marriage. And we listen to those stories. I mean, the people on our team are really amazing about how they work with people. We also have Facebook groups and things like that, and we get to hear a lot of stories. And sometimes in those stories, and Kimberly can attest to this, we listen to a person talking about what he or she has done, or is doing, or intends to do and think, "Wow, maybe, just maybe this is not all your spouse's fault." I mean, maybe you are part of the problem. And sometimes, even, maybe you are the problem. Now, don't panic if you've tuned in because of the fact that you're thinking, "I'm looking for help and you guys are gonna start up by beating me up and saying I'm the problem?" No, that's not the case at all. That's not what I'm trying to say.

We'll actually talk about a balance here. But as Kimberly Holmes, our CEO who is joining me on this program, and I will talk about, what responsibilities should you take, which ones should you not, like, "This is not my fault?" Where's the balance here that can help you if you want to make your marriage good. If it's in trouble, what can you do. But it can't be just by completely blaming the other person, except sometimes it really is altogether the other person. Now, is rare but sometimes that's the case.

Kimberly Holmes: Yeah, so that's very hard to come to grips with. So, how do I know? I mean, the question I'd be asking right now is, “How do I know what my situation is? Am I the one where ... Am I a part of the problem? Am I the entire problem? Is my spouse the entire problem?” That's what I would be thinking.


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