There's this incredibly common belief system that says one should be loyal to family no matter what.
Blood is thicker than water they say!
They say family over everything.

However what happens to a person if their family is toxic?

There's often trauma bonding that is occurring.

And if you have come from an amazingly positive and healthy family, fantastic but please do not impose that on other people that do not have that same luxury.

Don't shame people for drawing boundaries and for not associating that often with a toxic family experience.

I ask that people be kind and compassionate with themselves as they draw boundaries especially around holiday festivities. This is a very challenging time for folks that are coming from families that are not healthy.

Draw your boundaries. Say no. Be brave.
Don't succumb to the romanticization of the holiday time especially if you are negatively impacted by associating too much or too often with a family that is not respectful or toxic in any way.

#traumabonding
#familyculture
#toxicfamily
#noshame
#boundariesarehealthy
#relationshipadvice
#selfvalue
##selfcare
#selfcompassion

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