How much work is too much work for a mother of young children? Who should be the trusted caregiver for a child whose mother has to work? What should single mothers do? Today I sit down with Erica Komisar, psychoanalyst and parent coach, to discuss the importance of mothers “Being There” for their young children, as her groundbreaking book suggests. We discuss what is the ideal balance between work life and motherhood, especially with children under 4-years-old, when the child is at their most vulnerable and dependent stage of life. We also discuss the research behind outcomes for kids in daycare, aloparenting, practical advice for single moms, what type of schooling is ideal for children, and much more.

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Timestamps:
00:00 Intro Sequence
00:27 Introduction
02:39 Erica's Background
03:27 Her Motivation For this Research
06:01 Being a Voice for Children
08:22 The Role of Mom Guilt
11:21 The Status Quo of Mothers Working
12:55 Children Are Born Neurologically Vulnerable
16:39 What About Tantrums?
20:55 Nimi Skincare
21:54 What is the Optimal Way to Raise Your Child?
24:15 Ideal Quantity Time?
28:06 Can Mothers Have Breaks?
29:13 Balanced Role of Other Caretakers
31:15 Caring for 0 to 3 Year Olds
34:34 A Reason for Postpartum Depression
35:40 Ideal for 2-3 Year Olds
37:48 Better To Have Baby at Work or a Helper?
39:41 A Formual To Stick To
41:18 How "Child Care" Pre-Schools Changed
42:31 More On The Ideal
44:51 You Are Their Universe
46:43 The Lost Instinct
48:08 Sexual Revolution = War Against Babies
50:12 Maternal Feminism
51:02 Seven Weeks Coffee
51:58 The Ideal When Going Out
54:06 Transition Times
57:03 Fear of Coddling
58:24 When Independant Sleeping is Normal
1:00:15 Men and Women Fill Different Needs
1:01:08 The Best Jobs for Women
1:02:27 Goodbye and Repair
1:06:15 Mothers Should Be Able to Stay Home for First 3 Years
1:07:17 Women with Attachment Disorders
1:12:41 Couples Should Discuss Options Together
1:16:10 EveryLife
1:16:48 Family Court Settlements
1:18:50 Community Life
1:21:10 Women and Entrepreneurship
1:23:30 Men and Women Work and Nurture Differently
1:26:30 Maternal Preoccupation is Normal
1:29:50 Are Mothers and Fathers Interchangeable?
1:33:03 Pragmatic Advice for Parents
1:35:17 The Harm of Daycare
1:38:16 Advice for Single Moms
1:40:02 Babysitters/Nannies
1:41:23 Overcoming Personal Roadblocks
1:45:14 Second Chances?
1:48:11 Maximizing the Bond
1:50:23 Should Kids Be Homeschooled?
1:52:35 Dealing with Those Who Don't Understand
1:55:08 Rediscovering Motherly Instinct
1:59:16 Where to Find Erica's Work
1:59:37 Final Thoughts
2:00:08 Guilt vs Excessive Guilt
2:02:18 Wrap Up

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