Published on 15 Apr 2012
Kenneth Bok speaks to Diederik Wolsak, Program Director of Choose Again: a Canadian Registered Charitable Foundation which offers a variety of intensive, mind-training programs to enable clients to heal anxiety, addictions, depressions, dysfunctional relationships and other issues.

Diederik is a wonderful counsellor and therapist with years and years of experience, and has an amazing life story!

Our conversation:

01:39 Diederik introduces himself - starting with his childhood - his first 3 years in a Japanese concentration camp in Indonesia, moving to Australia and then Holland
05:10 I ask Diederik about playing sport (field hockey) at an international level
07:13 Diederik's turning point - choosing against suicide, discovering A Course in Miracles, and becoming a counsellor
11:29 Drug addiction, and how the focus has shifted at Choose Again from crisis work to anybody who is asking for 'a better way'
12:57 The root of addiction and all problems - the belief in separation
14:07 Feelings are essential to doing the work
14:35 Feelings, Needs and Non-Violent Communication (Marshall Rosenberg) and where Diederik sees the limitations of NVC
18:20 NVC already assumes we are bodies
19:47 A Course in Miracles - why he thinks it's important and the role it plays in his work
22:14 "If I really get one lesson, I'm done"
23:15 Why do we think we're victims?
25:35 Meditation and silent contemplation and its importance
27:05 The Course teaches a radical kind of forgiveness
29:03 What is "I"?
32:10 "Putting icing on shit"
33:10 The 6 step process that is used in the circles at the Choose Again centers
1. Recognising our upset
2. This is about ME
3. What I really feeling?
4. Is that feeling familiar?
5. Where did that feeling come from? What does it say about me?
6. Reconfirmation of Truth ("Forgive me for forgetting who I am")
37:34 What happens in a circle?
1. A short spiritual passage, read by everyone in the group
2. Meditating on the reading
3. People speak about what personally stood out in the reading for them - what upsets were triggered
40:28 What is a feeling?
43:07 Beliefs, Feelings and Thoughts
46:08 The therapist and the patient are one: humanistic psychology, Carl Rogers, ACIM and Diederik's approach
48:00 "There's nothing wrong with you"
49:00 Being addicted to being a victim
49:56 "Its comfort is its guiding rule." T-27.VIII.1
51:30 Do people have resistance to the Christian language of the Course at the center?
53:20 "The medium is not the message"
53:47 ACIM is a universal teaching
54:30 Some of Diederik's recommended practices
56:38 Diederik's workshops in Belgium, Holland and the Omega Institute (in New York)
57:45 Our stories are meaningless
59:06 "There are no small upsets" Lesson 5
59:38 Sticking to one path
1:01:00 Behaviour modification vs. Spiritual transformation
1:02:29 Is he ever going to write a book?
1:03:45 What is the link to the Holy Spirit for him?
1:08:00 Wrap up - final comments

Diederik's Bio:

Diederik's journey started in 1942 on the island of Java, Indonesia. He spent the first three years of his life in Japanese concentration camps. Many of his core beliefs were developed during that early, potentially traumatic phase. At age 8 he was sent to a foster home in Holland and by the time he rejoined his parents and brothers two years later he was filled with self-hatred and fear of the world around him. This self-hatred, fear and guilt translated into prolonged alcohol and drug abuse till finally at age 50 he reached that point where he realized that there had to be a better way or there would be no point in continuing. While his self-hatred drove him to be a successful businessman and international athlete, it allowed him little joy. Following the fork in the road where something had to change, Diederik entered upon a spiritual path of deep healing. This path eventually led to a fulfilling career as counselor in private practice.

Today, Diederik is the founder and program director of the Choose Again Attitudinal Healing Centre. He is the lead facilitator of both the Vancouver and Costa Rica arms of the organization. He is an international workshop leader, public speaker and relationship counselor with years of experience in group facilitation.

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More information on Diederik:
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Diederik and Claudette's workshop at the Omega Institute, 10-15 Jun 2012: [ Ссылка ]
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