Ghosting is different from minimal effort game. In the minimal effort approach the guy wants to be close to you but your never lets you that close to him. He gives you enough to keep you around because he wants you around. He is just lazy or preoccupied with multiple prospects. This could all just be strategic for him as well. The old make you chase him trick. The old disregard and treat her like shit to stand out from other guys because she doesn't realize her value and dislikes men who do trick. Call it what you want. Guys who are always so close yet so far away care a bit more than those guys who ghost you for months at a time. Ghosts don't make any lasting effort to hold value to you. They don't value you enough to really be concerned about you moving on. If they come back after disappearing just make peace with the fact that they may be hear one day and gone the next The worst thing you can do when a ghoster comes back is get excited and show them you care. On the slim chance that they are willing to stick around you wont do yourself any favors fawning over them. You must remember, most times a ghost isn't playing hard to get. They really are hard to get. They may not be hard to get for everyone just for you. They just simply aren't very interested in you. Here are some of the reasons a person may come and go from your life. They leave because they don't find you either interesting or attractive enough. They come back into your life to see if they were wrong about not liking you the first time. While they didn't find you all that interesting before they now realize your way more fun than waxing off in an empty home or dorm room with nobody to talk to or hang out with. Netflix and master sit isn't as much fun as Netflix and chill. They may have also left because the real love of their life has returned to them or come back into their life and they couldn't risk mucking things up by talking to you. You aren't worth the risk to be honest. Now that relationship has failed again so they rebound back to you because you always make them feel wanted. Being the prize in the relationship helps them get over some of life's rejections. Guys also disappear after they use you to get whatever it is they wanted. Wether that is sex money a few rides around town while they car is broken down.... sometimes you stop hearing from a guy when your services are no longer need. When he does eventually come back he'll want those same services he got from you the first time. Most of the time guys disappear when they find someone else they find more important. Because of this if and when they do come back you must maintain your pride and self respect. Now I don't want you to be completely discouraged. You can eventually get a ghoster to care about you. The thing is though it's going to have to be something about you they never really noticed or appreciated. Most times it won't be anything you can control. There's a saying somewhere that says if something is important you'll find a way and if it's not you'll find and excuse. This is true for dating as well. If someone treats you like you are disposable then dispose of them until they afford you the honor you think you deserve. Ghosters have a habbit of coming back to you just after you have finally made peace with their disappearance from your life. Show them no love when they try to re enter your life. If their change of heart or habbit is sincere they will earn you affection back through hard work and attention to your relationship. Most likely it's not the case and they will be disappearing again shortly. So what do you do when a guy reappears after a long absence? Not a damn thing. Fug em. Take that loss and move on. Very few of those situations turn out to be great and lasting relationships.

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