People flirt and also cheat for a variety of reasons. Flirting is healthy and part of both male and female’s natural sexual mating strategies. It helps us let others know we are interested, available, and curious.
Flirting can also be used for manipulation and for more selfish activities. When flirting is used in deceitful ways it can be harmful to others, especially when it’s not part of our agreements in relationship.
Breaking an agreement/s in relationship such as cheating or giving our attention and sexual energy to others when our partner’s have expressed wounding around that can stem from combined past unresolved trauma, pain, abandonment, shame, guilt, feelings of not-enoughness, the need for compensation to feel a certain way and more. What is true is that complimentary patterns of sounding will almost always exist in relationship to help us grow.
How do we heal from these feelings? We need to look deep within ourselves and ask us big and often unpleasant questions, questions that we avoid... what do we really want in relationship, in life? Where do feelings of wanting to be validated or desired by others come from? Where are we lacking?
It's time to start facing and stop avoiding. If we want to get unstuck, we need to act on it, now.
I'm curious about your thoughts on this. Let me know. 👇🏽👇🏽👇🏽
One is glad to be of service.
