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I’ve moved on from Mobility Mastery (self fascia release) in order to focus on teaching Kinetix, my method of root cause discovery for pain and dis-ease that involves partner fascia release as a “diagnostics” (and regeneration) tool. Kinetix is a complete scientific methodology that I teach to friends, partners and professionals alike inside The Kinetix Academy.

My other primary focus will be the launch and growth of a new podcast and Substack community called The Human Freedom Project.

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Sometime in 2023 I will return to YouTube with HFP podcast episodes and content created to help you know and understand yourself as a whole organism made of body, soul and spirit. This content will feature the Kinetix methodology, pain science, fascia secrets I’ve learned from 15+ years in private practice, neuroscience and evolving beyond the brain, trauma and the body, and more! I’m excited to go on this new adventure with you.

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The victim pattern, just like ALL the other patterns, is about safety. For some reason, people who play the victim feel safest blaming other people. Whether this is because they were born with a lack of self-confidence or already feeling disempowered (which I believe is possible, given we each have karma and come in with a seemingly inborn personality), or whether disempowerment was learned early on before the pattern of victim set in...I’m not sure.

But I’m convinced that the primary reason someone would choose this pattern to find safety is they don’t believe they have what it takes to be accountable, to be their own hero, to take responsibility and do the work of addressing their challenges head on.

Signs and symptoms of this pattern (and I’m sure there are more):
You feel like someone or something is conspiring against you to keep you down, continue the streak of bad luck you’re having or restricting access to what you need to heal.

Blame others frequently for your problems or pain - partners, parents, even your car or other inanimate objects.

Swing between two poles (timidity and rage, “poor me” stories vs “they’re the scum of the earth” stories).

Blame god, or “the system.”

How to break this pattern:
Start with admitting that you’ve been playing the victim - do this compassionately. Even if you were in an experience that was extremely unfair and painful, can you take responsibility for your life NOW, and not need to blame ANYONE else for feeling unsafe, unhealed, traumatized, in pain.

Take ownership of YOUR life and your story. Decide who you want to be, and how ALL of your life experiences have made (or CAN make) you the best version of yourself.

Swap your reactivity (the tendency to jump straight to blaming others) for curiosity. Curiosity about the situation, the person, the system and yourself can illuminate new information and help you see things differently.

Do your best to see the good in the person/people/system you blame. Seek to understand them. Follow their story to its root - even if you have to IMAGINE it. At one point this person was a BABY. What do you think happened in their childhood, adolescence and later to make them the way they are? At some point, this system didn’t exist. How did it come into being? Who supports it? If it was SO evil - why haven’t they been brought down? I believe that it is the evil in me that prevents me from seeing the good in other people, particularly those I judge or label as evil. If you refuse to see the good in what you label evil or “bad” (the wrongdoers of the world), then there’s a chance you’re not willing to admit your own capacity for evil or “wrongdoing.”

Find the hidden GIFTS in what happened to you that made you play the victim. For example: because of what I went through I have keen observation abilities that most other people don’t have, making me an exceptional practitioner in my private practice. I notice more. I have so much reverence for the human experience, the human condition, and for pain itself - and this helps me connect with people in pain, who are looking to be SEEN and acknowledge. Because I’ve known deep pain, I can see it in others and when I do, they feel seen…and being seen is often the only thing we need to heal. If I had not been through what I had, I wouldn’t even be here talking to you. I probably would have become a writer or artist, or chef. My life has so much more MEANING in it now. So if you can turn towards your pain and enter into it fully, in total acceptance of what happened and how it impacted you; if you stop rejecting what happened and look for how it’s made you more beautiful…you will begin to heal and stop feeling like a victim.

Bring self-compassion to this pattern.

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