Why Your Man Doesnt Apologize For Hurting You | He Doesnt Apologize When He Hurt Me
In this video, you will discover the one reason why your man doesn't apologize when he hurt you.
A simple reason why your boyfriend or husband doesn't apologize for upsetting you is that they have a big ego. That's it. Men generally have a bigger ego than women. If you remember this distinctive characteristic about men, you won't feel angry and upset when your man doesn't say sorry to you.
Even if he realizes that he did wrong to you, it doesn't guarantee that he will say sorry. So don't over-explain and tell your man how wrong he is in return for his apology. Because most likely, he won't say sorry. However, that doesn't mean he will never apologize to you. He can, and he will. But it is something he chooses to do, not because you force him.
When you are upset or angry, especially when he does something wrong to you, you feel like he owes you an apology. It's normal that when we are hurt or when someone does wrong to us, they need to apologize for their wrong behaviors. That's what we are taught, right? It's a common sense. However, common sense is not so common. Especially when there are emotions, ego, and pride involved.
Imagine, ladies, when you do something wrong, and someone tells you that "you should apologize to me," would you want to apologize to that person? Of course not. Or even if you did, it would not be a genuine apology. And you surely don't want your partner to just say sorry for the sake of saying, right? You want him to apologize for what he did sincerely. When you put yourself in your partner's shoes, ladies, you will see why he wouldn't want to say sorry when he is pressured to say sorry to you. It has to be genuine, and it has to come from him. He acknowledges that he did wrong to you, and he chooses to apologize to you. Not because you tell him to. Otherwise, he would resist apologizing to you.
When we are angry and hurt, we want our partner to feel bad about what they did by telling them how wrong they were with an expectation that they would say sorry. It's like we want to punish them and want them to ask us for forgiveness. This purely comes from our ego. And when there is ego involved, there is no love. Our men can feel and sense it right away. First, they have a bigger ego, and second, they don't feel any love from us and they don’t feel safe in the present with us to say sorry. When we say sorry to someone, we are vulnerable. And that isn't easy for a lot of us, especially for men.
I used to get so angry at my boyfriend and expected an apology from him. And I didn't receive what I wanted. However, now he apologizes to me without me expecting him to do so. So, what has changed? What is the secret? I have changed in my approach and how I talk to him. When I get upset and angry, I tell him how much it truly hurts me without demanding that he needs to say sorry. When I accidentally upset my partner's feelings, I sincerely apologize to him. And when we are both in a good mood, I let him know how I would appreciate his apology if he accidentally upsets me. I let him know how I would feel better when I hear him acknowledge and say sorry. And next time, when he says sorry to me, I thank him for doing so. I acknowledge how difficult it is for him to say sorry, but he still did for me regardless.
By doing so, I create a positive association with him saying sorry to me. It's still not easy for a man to say sorry to his woman, but when they know that their lady will appreciate their apology and respond with love and care. They will continue saying sorry when something happens in the future. And I never stop acknowledging and appreciating my man. That's why sometimes he apologizes to me when just a small thing that he did that upset me. And I do the same to him too.
So here is my secret sauce for you. To have your man apologize to you. You need to be that person first by saying sorry first when you accidentally do something wrong to him. Let him know that you would like to receive an apology from him when you both are in a good mood, not when you are angry. And when he does, acknowledge and appreciate him.
