This video is about the sexual shame I experienced having my first kiss at the altar and dealing with vaginismus after saving sex for marriage. I also explain the mindset I was in when I got married as a result of being raised in purity culture. I share some groups that influenced my worldview, including Focus on the Family, Above Rubies, and the Duggar family.
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[Podcasts Mentioned]
“Focus on Your Own Family: Response to Focus on the Family’s Jim Daly” by Bradley Onishi: [ Ссылка ]
“Weekly Roundup: The Problem with the Focus on the Family” by Bradley Onishi and Dan Miller: [ Ссылка ]
[Vaginismus]
“Vaginismus Can Cause (and Be Caused By) Emotional Trauma, But Healing Is Possible” by Corinne Kai: [ Ссылка ]
[Purity Culture Resources]
“Don’t Just ‘Reframe’ Purity Culture—Rethink the Whole Concept” by T.F. Charlton: [ Ссылка ]
“Give Me Sex Jesus” Documentary by Matthew Barber: [ Ссылка ]
"Purity Culture & White Supremacy" by Tori Williams Douglass: [ Ссылка ]
"Emily Joy Allison Wrote the Book on # ChurchToo | Exvangelical" by Blake Chastain with Amy Congdon: [ Ссылка ]
"A Place in the Middle" by PBS Hawaii: [ Ссылка ]
“Unlike a Virgin: Exploring My Sexuality as an Asian American Christian” by Emily Lu Gao: [ Ссылка ]
“How An Evangelical Dating Guide and Purity Culture Gave Me An Anxiety Disorder” by Hannah Brashers: [ Ссылка ]
"Being a Woman of Color in Purity Culture with Asha Dahya" by Bradley Onishi with Asha Dahya: [ Ссылка ]
[Timestamps]
00:00 - Purity Culture & Sexual Shame
00:42 - Religious and social context
01:58 - Focus on the Family, Above Rubies, & the Duggars
04:47 - My first kiss at the altar
07:22 - Vaginismus after saving sex for marriage
11:41 - Sexual safety in relationships
[Background Music]
Title: Hold Your Hand
[ Ссылка ]
Image description: Elly is white with brown eyes and shoulder-length brown hair. She is wearing a yellow shirt with small white flowers on it, sitting in front of a bed as she talks to the camera. There is a string of lights draped on the wall behind her.
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