Have you ever had the sense that all of the NLP submodality patterns are the same?

When I first went through my NLP Practitioner/Master Practitioner Training I had this sense that all of the NLP Change Patterns were pretty much the same....

1. Elicit the submodalities of the present/problem state.
2. Elicit the submodalities of a resource state
3. Map across
4. Read a pre-prepared script

Pretty simple, huh? Almost too simple and it got me thinking....

How could it be that this same exact simple pattern could magically cure grief, shame, sadness, anger, frustration, and pretty much every other negative experience (like my trainers had led me to believe)?
And what's the deal with that darn script at the end?
Who wrote that script that I am supposed to just read without questioning?
Why did they language that script in that way that they did?
And if the magic was in the submodalites (like I was told repeatedly) why is the script necessary at all?

It wasn't until years later when I began to study Neuro-Semantics and the power of 'framing' that I realized what was going on here.

What I am going to say next might go against everything you were told about NLP:

The real magic is NOT in the submodalities. The real magic is in the script!

In fact, the reason that the submodality patterns don't work many times is because the client didn't accept the script (or they had a counter productive script running in the back of their mind).

I am not saying that submodalites aren't powerful. The submodality map across is magical in that it provides someone with an undeniable experience that they CAN feel they way they want to feel in the situation that they previously couldn't even imagine.

But it is the job of the script to take that feeling and lock it in, future pace it, and stabilize it with some resourceful frames so that the change can fit into that person's personal life circumstances in a way that is ecological.

If those frames didn't stick — the client argued with the frames, or they re-framed you back, or they discounted them, or in the back of their mind there was an even higher frame saying "Thats a bunch of baloney”, “This isn't going to work", “No, I don’t agree with that” — ultimately the submodality shift would reorganize back to the way that it was -- the change would disappear as a fleeting moment.

Beyond that, when I began to explore the subjective realms beyond the internal representations, the realms of our ‘frames-of-mind’, I discovered that when I would completely skip the time consuming submodality elicitations and just set the frames properly -- the submodalities would shift automatically!

Clients would walk away saying, “I am so much more *clear* now” or “Thanks, I feel so much *lighter*” or “Glad that’s *behind me* now”.

Amazing!

I discovered through these experiences that the key to lasting change, the real difference that makes a difference, is much deeper than submodality work.

The key to lasting change, the real difference that makes a difference, is in the framing.

But more on this later.

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