I get asked about this a lot - especially for a fitness page. (we're still technically a fitness page... Sometimes)

There are a lot of philosophies and mindsets that might work, but I usually give two points:

1.) Draw boundaries, both hard and soft

If you want to be a generous person, then you may also want to know how to say "no". It helps if you can do it politely, but some people may not want or need that. It's up to you.

Some people will always want more than you can give. That might make you feel a bit sad. However, you are also a person* with needs and wants - remember it's okay to leave some energy for yourself.

*maybe you're an AI robot reading this. If so, feel free to disregard.

2.) Manage your expectations of what you get for "giving".

I usually don't know the people who ask me about this stuff THAT well. Yet, anyway. So I add this just in case. Are they nice? Or are they "nice"?

It's okay not to give sometimes and it's okay to not want to be around some people. HOWEVER, if you are "giving" and "being nice" with hidden expectations of others, then you may want to analyze this for yourself. Communicate them to others, if applicable.

Very notably, this includes friendship. Meaning you can't force someone to be your friend if they don't want to be. You can be very nice to them, but if they don't reciprocate, you may want to find other company. Perhaps.

You don't have to. Or you might be a great person who already does this! Feel free to ignore this if you feel like it doesn't apply to you.

Just some thoughts! I'll be doing more podcast-style videos like this during the winter.

Have a wonderful day!

#kindness #shorts #friendship

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