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Hi, thanks for joining me for the Live Better Series. I'm delighted that you are sending me comments about what you'd like me to speak about and I'm glad that some of these comments have been helpful. Certainly we want to live better and every day is a challenge and we can keep learning about ourselves and the environment and the people we come in contact with.

So today's message is about how we deal with people who absolutely won't change. And I think that's the first acknowledgment is recognizing that many people are comfortable in how they deal with the world. Or even if they're not comfortable, they're used to it, they have patterns and the people around them need to adapt if they are going to keep them in their lives and have productive relationships. So a lot of that has to do with our attitude about who we're with and what we will tolerate, what we won't tolerate, where our boundaries are and how we remember to keep our own voice and how we are not intimidated and how we really focus on what it is that's important to us in the relationships. So one of the things that I'd like you to think about is to remember every day, try to remember with this particular person or with this particular family, what can you expect?

And that can be positive and negative, but what is it that you're also hoping for? And that can be positive and negative and it can also be realistic or unrealistic. So we need to have reasonable expectations for the kinds of experiences we have with people. And if people aren't warm and fuzzy, then we don't go to them for hugs. But if they can offer insight about things, we go to them for that. So understand what the relationship is and how you can be of service to someone and how they can be of service to you. Some relationships are transactional and we wish they weren't, but they are. So we can keep reminding ourselves of whether this particular relationship and the way it is structured helps us enhance our life, makes us feel okay about ourselves. And these are questions that are important to ask when we reevaluate relationships that we're in. So I thank you for your time and thanks for listening to Live Better Series.


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