How can you tell if what your partner is doing is a warning sign for an abusive relationship, or if it's just because relationships are hard? Many people don't realize that their partner is going to end up being abusive until it's too late. How can you decrease your chances that you or someone you love will end up in this situation? In these videos, I talk about how to recognize warning signs in abusive relationships and how this abuse can continue legally even after the relationship ends. The information in these videos has been collected from hundreds of survivors of domestic abuse.

Tips for recognizing an abusive relationship. What if he always wants things his way and you feel like you are trapped? What if he won't give you access to money or let you see your friends? How can you tell if he's a narcissist? What if he insists on having sex when you don't want to? What if a man gets you pregnant to trap you in a relationship? Recognize bad relationships before it's too late. Tips for identifying coercion and threats in bad relationships. Physicial violence, psychological violence, economic violence. The importance of having a plan to escape and for police and judges to immediately understand the situation and for them to not force the victim to go back to the abuser.

In these videos, I discuss physical, psychological, and economic abuse, coercion/threats, domination, making choices for his victim, neglect, intimidation, leveraging male privilege, isolating his victim, minimizing his actions, denial, gaslighting, getting other people to excuse his behavior, blaming the victim, playing on your insecurities, the silent treatment, turning everything back on the victim, jealousy and possessiveness, controlling behavior, not respecting you, your property, or your privacy, he doesn't admit mistakes or apologize, or his apologies are not sincere, pattern of believing he's the victim, he blames others for making him upset or violent, sudden extreme mood changes, any verbal abuse or threats, any physical violence (even if you are not the target), unrealistic or exaggerated speech, flattery, using culture or religion or immigration status against the victim, shaming the victim when she contradicts him, using stereotypes against the victim, leveraging systemic bias (such as in courts), reproductive coercion to trap the victim, complaining or angry if you do not consent to sex, using children to trap the victim, faking love, faking what your future will be like if you are with him, litigation abuse.

Healthy Family Better World #010. How abusive partners use isolation to their advantage--separating their victim from their friends and family makes it much more difficult to escape.

Help in the USA: National Domestic Violence Hotline number 1-800-799-SAFE or 1-800-799-7233, or [ Ссылка ]. Preferably use a third-party device, because often abusers in these relationships also put spyware to monitor your activity on your devices.

Help in the UK: [ Ссылка ]. Preferably use a third party device, because often abusers in these relationships also put spyware to monitor your activity on your devices.

All countries: [ Ссылка ]

Figure 1: Power and Control wheel (with added coloration) appears courtesy of DOMESTIC ABUSE INTERVENTION PROGRAMS, 202 East Superior Street, Duluth, MN 55802, 218-722-2781, www.theduluthmodel.org, [ Ссылка ]

Figure 2: Economic Abuse Wheel (with added coloration) provided courtesy of Dr. Nicola Sharp-Jeffs, CEO and Founder of Surviving Economic Abuse. [ Ссылка ]

DISCLAIMER: THE VIEWS EXPRESSED IN THIS VIDEO ARE PRESENTED FOR INFORMATIONAL AND EDUCATIONAL PURPOSES ONLY. THEY SHOULD NOT BE TAKEN AS LEGAL OR THERAPEUTIC ADVICE. THEY REFER TO DOMESTIC ABUSE IN GENERAL, NOT TO ANY SPECIFIC PERSON, AND SHOULD NOT BE USED TO SUGGEST THAT ANY SPECIFIC PERSON IS ABUSIVE. THE PRESENTER IS NOT CERTIFIED IN ANYTHING AND THE OPINIONS EXPRESSED SHOULD NOT REPLACE THE ADVICE THAT YOU SHOULD SEEK FROM THE APPROPRIATE CLINICAL AND LEGAL PROFESSIONALS ABOUT YOUR PARTICULAR SITUATION. PERMISSION IS NOT GRANTED TO REPOST THIS VIDEO.

Red flags were collected from information provided by Domestic Abuse Intervention Programs in Duluth, MN, and from survivors who have shared information with the presenter. The presenter was told that all the respondents of the research conducted by DAIP were female, and all the survivors who communicated directly with the presenter were also female.

These red flags are shared in good faith and represent personal experiences. #relationships #abuse #love #dating #redflag #coercion #threats #bad #romance #narcissist #listenable #controlling #domesticviolence #pregnancy #healthy

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