Healing from your parents’ break up isn’t a one-time event. It’s a process, a journey which will be different for each of us.

There are lots of things you can do to move forward and find healing, and there are other things that will keep you stuck or get in the way.

Some things that will keep you from moving forward are:
1️⃣ Pretending it’s not a big deal. Downplaying, ignoring or glossing over the impact of your parents break up won’t help you move forward.

2️⃣ Numbing yourself and your emotions with activity, food, social media or anything else. Cramming your life with busyness, hurry, and noise will get in the way of reflection, healing and growth.

3️⃣ Thinking that a romantic relationship will make all your problems go away. It’s so tempting to imagine that finding that “right person” will erase your feelings of rejection, your doubts, and insecurities and will help you become the person you want to be. In truth, a relationship will only highlight the pains and fears you have. Do what you can to work through your issues now. Your future partner will thank you.

4️⃣ Expecting forgiving and forgetting to make everything better. There may be some people in your life who will tell you that all you need to do is forgive, forget, and place your past in God’s hands. While it’s true that forgiveness can help you move forward, it’s only one piece of a very big puzzle.

What else would you add to this list?

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